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To think getting hit by a swing

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RalphLaurenLover · 02/03/2014 09:50

To think getting hit by a swing Is a life lesson? Everyone does it at some point at least once!

A friend and me took our dc's to the park yesterday and a lady was pushing her DS on the swing, friends little boy run out behind it and nearly got hit the lady then told my friend she needed to "take better care of her DS" as a "good mother wouldn't let their kid run around the park like that"

I did have a word with her stating that she could of just said be careful and moved on but she was having none of it because we'd obviously left out super mum powers in the car even if she ran she wouldn't of caught her DS in time
I mean everyone in their life gets hit by a swing at some point right? I mean that's how we learn to not run behind or in front of a swing when it's moving yeah it hurts but that's life

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RalphLaurenLover · 02/03/2014 12:18

I follow my DS around not enough to the point I'm on his toes though. I wouldn't let him run into the road and he always holds my hand when we go out knows not to run off and never lets go.

Never before now have I ever thought being hit by a swing will leave him dead, paralysed etc. Just though the same thing would occur as when I was younger.

I'll know for next to hold his hand the whole way round.

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RalphLaurenLover · 02/03/2014 12:19

merry once again not my child.

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Sirzy · 02/03/2014 12:20

Quite worrying that you seem unable to understand potential risk to the extend of not seeing how dangerous a swing can be

Nobody has said there is a need to hold hands all the way around, just being alert enough and being in a position to step in before injury can happens (as much as possible)

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RalphLaurenLover · 02/03/2014 12:21

Husky We use to play that game :D We use to swing and lean back as far as we could. I know a lot of people who got their fingers caught in the chain or fell off

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BertieBottsJustGotMarried · 02/03/2014 12:21

That's true Sirzy. And children don't always have the critical thinking skills to realise why an accident happened either. I'm sure I've broken one of DS' toys at some point by stepping on it but he still leaves them all over the floor.

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RalphLaurenLover · 02/03/2014 12:23

Sirzy as I said before. If I can stop him getting hit by a swing I will. I'm not exactly going to push him into it

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chocolatemademefat · 02/03/2014 12:24

Dont swings and childrens heads have magnets that attract? I used to be run ragged at the park by my son who would have spent hours darting in front of swings - it was surely more than stupidity on his part?

maddening · 02/03/2014 12:28

sorry but how old is your friend's dc?

Pumpkinpositive · 02/03/2014 12:30

Sirzy as I said before. If I can stop him getting hit by a swing I will. I'm not exactly going to push him into it

Actually, what you said first was:

Personally if my son is gonna ignore me and run behind/in front of the swing he is more than likely gonna get hit. He will then learn not to do it. I do tell him obviously lol

Doesn't really give the impression you'll be straining yourself to prevent that inevitable "life lesson". After all, if you ain't seen it happen, it can't happen, right?

ShotgunNotDoingThePans · 02/03/2014 12:31

My sister ran into a swing when she was 2. Front teeth knocked out, trip to hospital in ambulance (mum was with my gm - no car in the sixties).
Had an exploratory op aged about 9 to see why her second teeth weren't growing properly; one staryed high up in her gum and the other was invisible but turned out to be growing in fragments inside the gum. All was removed and she wore a false tooth with a plate all through her teens and most of her twenties, when a dentist finally suggested a bridge.
I can't imagine what scrubbing a plastic denture every night would do to a teenager's self-esteem - oh, and worrying about it falling out as well. At least she wasn't dead, I suppose - but I'm sure she didn't run in front of a swing again.
Depends on the age of the child, obviously - but anyone who tracks their dcs near swings is nbu imo.

TetrisBlock · 02/03/2014 12:31

I'm a bad mother, my eldest son has been hit by a swing. This was despite being told many times not run around in front of them. He is obviously one of those children who learns through demonstration rather than theory because he is much more careful now.

LEMmingaround · 02/03/2014 12:35

Your friend was BU if she made no attempt to stop her child running behind the swings, the woman was being unreasonable to call her a bad mother. You are being a bit daft if you think its ok to just let them hurt themselves because it will be a life lesson.

If children only ever had to learn through experience then parenting would be much easier, and i guess the population would be much reduced - win win really.

MrsDeVere · 02/03/2014 12:58

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ppeatfruit · 02/03/2014 13:25

True MrsDeVere and you just have to stay by an under 3 yr old where they could be harmed or do harm. Like I used to follow DD1 at 18 months because she loved pulling other girls' pony tails!

merrymouse · 02/03/2014 14:04

"merry once again not my child."

Fair enough.

It was not reasonable for your friend to let her child get in the way of the children using the swings.

If you honestly believe that being hit by a child is a good life lesson, sit on a swing and get your child to run in front of you. Otherwise, you should be aware of other playground users.

merrymouse · 02/03/2014 14:05

If you honestly believe that being hit by a swing...

Meid · 02/03/2014 14:12

Swings are probably the most dangerous thing in the playground. Don't most playgrounds have fences around the swings?

To not run around swings was drummed into me as a child as much as running across the road was and I have taken the same approach with my own children. Thus far, no one in my family has been hit by a swing.

nennypops · 02/03/2014 15:19

Children should be allowed to run around a park otherwise where else are they going to run around?

Obviously, but that doesn't mean running around in dangerous areas such as those where there are swings in use.

NearTheWindymill · 02/03/2014 15:29

I got told off once just like the OP. Shouted at by a man about not looking after my ds properly. I had taken my eyes off him for 10 seconds to pick up dd's bottle. They were about 1 and 4. I left the park in tears but not before saying - well it's a good job you caught the swing back if it was going too fast to you were being as negligent as me. Then I got a string of verbal about being a silly **ing little stuck up bitch.

Bet I know whose children grew up better looked after. Quite enjoyed typing that very cathartic

helzapoppin2 · 02/03/2014 15:38

Omg, as a little girl, I was the one on the swing that hit a little boy who ran into it. Ive spent most of my life thinking it was MY fault!

TeamHank · 02/03/2014 15:47

I was hit by a swing as a kid, it hurt! I still remember it.

My 3 yr old DS2 was hit by a swing last year - I couldn't get to him in time.

I do think there are some slightly hysterical responses on this thread though!

RedFocus · 02/03/2014 16:22

YABU I've never been hit and neither have my children because I taught them from a very young age to stay away from the swings when someone is using them or you may get hit. My mums friend got hit in the head by my mum when they were little and she cracked her head open and ever since then my mum has been especially careful.
Common sense really.

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RalphLaurenLover · 02/03/2014 16:44

So was I bu when I told my DS to look where he was going and he ran into a pole he was walking/running next to me and went straight into it. I did laugh tbh

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Joysmum · 02/03/2014 16:57

I agree. Kids aren't allowed to be kids anymore. I've been knocked over by a swing, fallen out of trees etc etc but so many kids don't get to do that. In fact, they don't get to go to the park unsupervised at all as me and my mates did as kids.

What was wrong with her saying, 'careful, you nearly got hurt then', rather than going off on one at the mum. I'm guessing she'd be the first to get offended if somebody approached her about her parenting skills!

Twighlightsparkle · 02/03/2014 16:59

My kids have luckily never been hit by a swing, be ause there's generally loads of running around space away from the swings and every time they have had near swing misses I am watching and stop it for. Happening.

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