To contact the police on elderly neighbour

[kellibabylove]

Sorry a bit of a long one but WIBU to call the police on our old lady neighbour?
So we have lived in our house for almost 5 years. Our elderly next door neighbour has always got on with us, even sending our dd's (4 & 6)christmas presents. Just before Christmas, very out of character she started shouting at me as I walkin in with the dd's after school about us banging and slamming. Never any complaints before and we havnt suddenly started banging. (neighbours other side of her having extension built) maybe this is what shes hearing.

Anyway since then all was quiet until last week. Again it seems she was waiting for me to arrive home with dc after school. She complained again about banging, also stating that we have stolen her bin and dh has slashed her tyres. She was quite aggressive and the children were quite scared. I quite happily let her look for her bin and didn't even acknowledge the slashing tyre accusation. To cut a long story short in the end the door was shut in her face.
So today me and the dd's were going out and she was outside and had another go at me claiming she has contacted the police over dh slashing her tyres. I told her she was talking rubbish and asked her why he would do such a thing? She just said she knew is was him over and over again. I walked away and she followed me down the driveway shouting at me scaring dd's. Totally ruined our bike ride but surfice to say we didnt hurry back.
It seems to be every day she sees me now ane never once has she said anything to DH even though it's him she seems to have a vendetta against. She seems to have lost her mind!

Can you contact SS? She sounds early althzeimers

Wow I can't spell

I had similar with a client of mine. I reported to social services, they were very sympathetic and were round the same day.

Thanks for the advice everyone. Ill write to the GP, for now atleast. Hopefully they will follow it up.

Thats great Suzie. Wish our SS were as professional.
They just fobbed us off and told us to call the police. In other words, not our problem.

We had this with our neighbour but unfortunately for us she had family who decided she was telling the truth and threatened to kill our kids . So we did get the police involved. The neighbour is dead now, but the family is still around. They leave us alone. However not before they tried the same trick on the new neighbours on the other side. They refused to go to the proper authorities on any of this either, and places like environmental health refused to help unless she reported us. I hope you get better luck than we did

I had the same with a neighbour of my father. She kept knocking at the door because she heard a hissing noise. We had someone staying in the house for 7 weeks and she had him in also. I listened and so did my friend. She phoned the police, the hospital and the fire brigade to get my brothers phone number to let him know. In the end I told her it had to stop or I would fall out with her. I haven't heard a cheep since Christmas. It didn't occur to me that it could be mental health because the doctor renewed her driving licence application at the same time.

deste if it was just the hissing noise concerning her it could have been tinnitus or a side effect of losing her hearing acuity (as you do as you get older) or even a malfunctioning hearing aid (if she wore them) rather than MH.

Can you try the red cross as well as age concern once you have written to the GP? She sounds like she needs some help poor Woman, as someone said she could have an infection, have had a stroke, or head injury.

If she was previously a good neighbour, I would bring her round some tea, sandwiches and a slice of cake tomorrow and ask her if you can have a nice chat, see if you can find out more about what is going on for her.

Poor children, explain to them the neighbour is unwell and you are trying to get her some help.

Good luck with contacting the GP. My DH and SIL wrote to the GP about my FIL to give info and ask him to ask the right questions on his next visit. It was a waste of time and the doc wrote back saying he couldn't give out info???

Unfortunately it takes a lot for SS to get involved. My FIL was in sheltered housing and had me to care and go get him when he'd go out in his PJ's at night time. There was a lady in the same complex who didn't have family and when she did get home visits eventually, they resorted to licking the door in a complicated way so she couldn't work out how to unlock it. When dad was moved into a secure care home, she had reached the bed and bound double incontinence stage and it was heartbreaking SS wouldn't put her in a home with 24/7 care and company.

It's disgusting home this country treats it's elderly.

I had a neighbour like this many years ago and it's only now I understand that she was unwell, she used to scare me and bang on the windows and doors shouting at me and my Mum. My Mum was actually very good with her and would go and chat and find out what was up, it was usually to do with her locking herself out of her house - she got confused with her keys, and would then come to the conclusion that we were controlling her door with laser beams...
A colleague of mine is having some worries with her Dad, he has recently become quite delusion at times and the Community Police have been really really great with him, SS have also been asked to step in though as he is a vulnerable adult and lives alone.
If your neighbour has no family, then you making that first call for her is important. I'd also give Adult Social care at your local Council a ring too.

I think you should contact the police to express concern. This could be as simple as a kidney infection and perfectly treatable but she won't get help unless someone does something positive. The police can request SS to get involved.

It could be early Dementia OR she may have a UTI.. after working in elderly care just something as simple as a urine infection can bring on aggression and challenging behaviour..although it would be hard to know if she's not drinking enough and not quite sure how you'd go about getting her help but if she has no family Social Services or her G.P. surgery (if you know it) could check in on her to check she's ok.

Chronicallyfarting, I suggested that to her.

my mum gets like this when she is poorly.

water infections, low sodium levels if they are taking blood pressure meds/ anxiety can all be causes.

My first thought was a urinary tract infection.

I think the GP is best, a UTI can lead to confusion and aggression in the elderly too - one course of AB and they are back to Mrs Nice Neighbour (fingers crossed).

I would say GP (UTI/dementia/stroke or other health related issue?) if they wont act then police if she wont stop and is frightening you/your children and they will refer to SS/mental Health services if they feel necessary.

next time it happens op i would consider contacting the police the main reason being they can take her to the hospital on an emergency section for an.assessment social services and gp dont have the power to do this without going through the courts first