I'm seething.
Poor bloke at work (I'm in charge of a small team) has been going through a tough time lately. I was aware of it, but wasn't aware of how much it had clearly affected him. The boss pulled him in, dressed him down over a very minor incident. Fair enough, even though I felt it was a bit harsh on him and an overreaction by the boss. But it turned out that it was the straw that broke the camel's back for him I guess. He came back to the office and just burst into tears. He was in bits. He's never like this; usually the life and soul.
I took him into a quiet room and he told me that a lot had been going on for him, and he had just reached breaking point. I listened to him talk, then took him home and told him to report to the doctor first thing this morning (we are military).
Anyway, he reported to the doc and got signed off. He went back into the office to tell the boss he'd been signed off with some tablets. He got pretty upset in there as he felt ashamed of himself, and the boss implied that he thought he'd just got himself signed off to get out of work and for some free time off, and told that there would be no let up in pressure when he got back and that he needed to 'pull it together'. He was in absolute bits. He was almost hyperventilating by the time I saw him, he was crying so hard. He wasn't faking it.
I'm beyond angry; I've suffered depression in the past and what is needed is compassion and understanding, not someone telling you to pull yourself together ffs. AIBU to wish depression on him, just so he can feel the depths of despair you reach so he can realise a bit of bloody compassion? 