Without going into too much detail (hopefully enough without drip feeding) I put in a complaint about a man at work. He has made many reference towards me, saying why I am single, that I am "like a tramp on chips" desperate (butted into a private conversation), slated me by calling me arrogant, childish etc in a team meeting.
The final straw came when a colleague told me he said he was "going to make my life a living hell"
I put in a private complaint to a manager who said that she would have a documented discussion with him. When she had a talk with him (not documented) he said I was the one who was victimising and harassing him (I don't even speak to him unless it is about work).
Basically my word against his.
My manager and a senior manager offered a two way meeting/mediation. This happened and by his reaction I could see he was thinking "oh shit" when I was listing my reasons of why I can be hostile towards him and not want to engage or initiate conversations with him and he had no comeback of how I harass or victimise him.
It ended with to basically sum up - I think you both misunderstood each other, it's just his sense of humour - you are too sensitive, and get over it. I left that meeting visibly upset (I had held it together until the end where I couldn't stop the tears and my managers witnessed that.)
I don't want this man to lose his job or even have a disciplinary but I feel he has completely got away with how he has treated me and it's been brushed aside without any consequences. But maybe aibu because I'm so upset about it that the last hour of work was just a haze.
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montgomerymadison · 27/02/2014 20:54
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