to not wake up to let DH in

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Have name changed as I'm sure he snoops on here and this will certainly out me.

DH has gone on a works day out today. Just before he left at 7 this morning, he woke me and 8 month old ds (we were co sleeping) to ask where the spare key was as he didn't know what time he would be back and he wanted to let himself in. I had no idea so he left without it.

I just texted him asking if he knew when he would be home and he rang back with this reply:

"Some people are leaving at half 11 so IF I get a lift with them I'll be home for half 12 ish. If not then I dont know"

Was I unreasonable to say if he didn't get a lift with the half 11 people then he wouldn't be getting into this house as I will be asleep?! His reply to that was "fine! I'll sleep at someones then come home at half 6 in the morning to get ready for work!". Again, was I unreasonable to say no, I'll be asleep then too!? Should I get up for him? The works day out finished hours ago, they're now just out on the piss.

I find people's attitudes weird here. He went out knowing he didn't have a key, decided to stay out late in spite of that when his other half has a baby to look after, then said just leave a key for him burglars? Rather than just saying 'yeah, I'll compromise and come home a bit earlier and not take the piss'

Now it's the OP's fault for doing too much and making a rod for her own back or just being petty?

It's not a LTB situation but a bit I'd be a bit put out

Yanbu my co-sleep ing ds would wake up if the doorbell rang or my phone rang, it wouldn't just be a cast of jumping out of bed for 2 minutes and opening the door I would then be up for 45 minutes putting ds back to sleep again.

He knew he didn't have a key, I think he should have come home when he knew you were still awake.