Ex's girlfriend is heavily pregnant. When dd told me I offered exH that if he liked, he could let me know when the baby was born and when his gf was feeling up to it I'd drop dd at his to meet her new brother. Waiting for the next contact session might mean she didn't meet him til he was two or three weeks old, and obviously when I had herssibling she met her the very same day so she'd notice the difference. I thought it'd be nice to get dd to make a card for the baby/be there for those early photos etc.
At the time, he said yes he would like that. But he's recently fallen out with me over a minor issue and has said he won't speak to me unless via solicitor. I said that's his choice and my offer re: the baby still stood but he told me to stick it! Dd has already been moved out of her bedroom at his to make way for the baby without being consulted. She's missed five weekends of contact during the pregnancy as she's had a cold/sickness bug/chicken pox etc and so exH refused to collect her. He's made a big thing of how he'll see this baby every day, forever.
Aibu to think dd is being excluded from her new sibling before they are even born, and to be sad for her?