to try and sort this mess out with PILs.

[MommyBird]

Ive posted a fair few times about my MIL and her behaviour.
She is textbook toxic.

She is selfish, lazy, she lies and uses guilt trips alot. not painting a very nice picture am i?

We haven't seen her for 6 months. Had the odd texts saying how upset she is etc.

We heard from her yesterday and basicaly fed us a bunch of lies and contricicted (sp) herself.
She also threatened me of FB a week weeks ago.

We are fed up of her lies and her trying to make us seem unreasonable when it is infact her. Its like talking to a 12 years old..when we confront her we have alot of ".. yeah but..." its like we're going in circles.
She cancels visits alot due to silly reasons..then moans we are not making time for her and she doesnt see dd enough.

We cut contact just after dd2 was born as she was just putting more pressure on us and telling us how awkard we are not making time for her.

DH is at work. Im a SAHM and i'm sat here wondering if we should meet up without the kids and try and sort this whole mess out?
I suffer with anxiety and all of this stress is effecting me. I dont want to feel like this.

AIBU to want to do this? Will it change anything?
Ive posted on relationships and they know more about this situation and i know they will say to not go ahead with it..
But i just wanted some other thoughts on it.

DH has said he has had enough of her and is sick of her attitude. I just feel like my family is being split and DH has lost him mom.

I'm NC with my mother, and over the years, well-meaning relatives have tried to engineer meetings for us, thinking there will be some lightbulb/thunderbolt moment where we will set eyes on each other, I will forgive her behaviour and she will snap out of her narcissist and toxic ways.

Guess what, it never works.

What has happened is the well-meaning 'matchmaker' gets bombarded with her increasingly crazy stories (they start with her claiming she did everything she could to be nice, then over the course of several weeks, I will have been physically abusive during the meeting, tried to steal her purse, pushed her down the stairs, threatened to kill her, she felt ill the next day so maybe I poisoned her)

Toxic people never change. Never. They do, however, always look for cracks and ways to exploit any chink in a relationship.

If you let her in, she WILL use it against your DH. She WILL find a way to use your DCs against him. It WILL impact your relationship with DH and possibly DC.

So please don't do this. Your DH has been on the receiving end of her behaviour for longer than you. You have to trust him on this.