feeling quite stupid and pathetic about this 
XDH always dealt with car matters and I realise I'm fairly clueless.
I just want to buy a decent car - got about £7000 to spend and thinking i could get something almost new for that - not after anything flash - and don't want one brand new off the forecourt - but would like something thats got a few hundred (or thousand ?) - ex display (or whatever the equivalent is with cars) - almost new - but don't know how to find such a car.
Popped into a local car showroom today and was treated like a poor little woman who would believe any old tosh and they only had shiny brand new ones anyway.