To be pissed off with dh

[K8eee]

He's been away since Thursday, and today has gone to pick up dss. 9 times out of 10 it's not an easy process as his ex always manages to keep him there for ages.

Anyway, dss wanted dh to take him to church before coming down to us; fair enough. Bearing in mind it's at least a 4 and a half hour journey I've literally only just got a phone call from dh to say he has left. That's up to him as he's the one doing all the driving, but I'm 36 weeks pregnant, and on Friday I had to drive myself to the hospital after having a bit of a scare. I have tried calling him 2 or 3 times so far today, but no answer not even a text. AIBU to be hacked off at him for not being easy to get hold of? What about if something bad had happened, or I had gone into labour and he had no bloody idea because he couldn't be bothered to think of anyone else but himself?! My hormones probably aren't helping the way I'm writing this, but surely it's common sense to keep your phone in ear/eye shot in case your heavily pregnant wife goes into labour...?

Yanbu k8eee
It is so nerve wracking and hard being 36 weeks with your first. He has been a pain in the arse but at least you can see he cares deeply for his dc. Most men dont click until the baby is right in front of them and im sure hes one of those. I think it would be perfwctly reasonable to meet in the middle friday, chat to him about it. Talk talk talk and then put your feet up and have a cuppa

What actually happened last Friday?

Was it just a 'scare' or is there a genuine problem?

Well I've spoken to him, and told him how I felt he didn't care or wasn't worried. I think he's got the message.

On Friday I had a bit of a scare as I had abdominal cramps and had no idea what it was that caused it. Dh didn't bother contacting me until 4 hours later

YANBU at all. I remember having a go at the same stage with DD as DH didn't bother checking his phone. I appreciated that he wouldn't be available at work all the time, but I asked him to double check his phone for missed calls/texts when he got out of them. He didn't. He didn't even get it when MIL had a go at him (I hadn't moaned to her, he just missed a call from her and she had a go of her own volition!). There were thankfully no baby problems but we did have issues with our lovely criminal neighbours and I needed him quite urgently a couple of times.

And to cap it all off, he repeated the same when I was heavily pregnant with DS at which point I had a screaming fit at him and MIL didn't sympathise.

I appreciate your DH has a different set of problems with another child but the same thing applies. It takes less than 2 seconds to check your phone for a text or missed call. And its not impossible to pull over and call/text back.