whats the point of having a mobile of u dont turn it on.

[NachoAddict]

Ok so I am annoyed at dp but can't figure out if I am being unreasonable because I was already annoyed.

Dsd went away with her mum this weekend, mum text me to tell us and let us know she would drop dsd off on their way back today. I told dp this on Friday.

Today he has had his lie in, got up at half twelve when I called him and went out to find a forest? Looking for a good bike ride spot I think.

ds has had me up since 5 so I am shattered, I put him down for a nap when do went out and thought I would have one myself. Then ex turns up with dsd so that's out of the window. I try ringing his phone to tell him and its off. Cut much annoyance on my half.

so is he unreasonable to have his phone off when he knew dsd was arriving today?

so as not to drip feed I am already annoyed with him and that may be affecting my view. Basically we used to take turns having a lie in on the weekends but I have chosen to give mine up so I can go to my slimming class on a sat morning. However now I get up usually about 6 or 7 with ds, get ready etc and dp gets out of bed at 10am when I need to leave. Then he has his lie in in Sunday untill the afternoon so is effectively having both lie ins or not getting up with dsd either day.

He got in just after half four and we had to return her home about 6.15.

He does go out more than me but I don't usually mind, because I work during the week I prefer to spend the weekend with the children.

Usually we have dsd Fri night through till Sunday evening so if he wants to go out he still gets to see her but last weekend she had other plans so we barely saw her, 8pm on Fri till 10am sat and then this weekend they went away so we only had a few hours with her again, I thought he would want to be there.

If you are a parent and you are going out then you have your mobile switched on at all times, no question, no excuses. IMO its highly irresponsible to be uncontactable if you have children.

As far as the lie ins go YANBU at all. Surely swapping the days you lie in would make more sense than this sacrifice? Especially as you would be happy with a lie in until 9. He does the saturday shift where you sleep until 9, go to your class and you're back by 12 then you do the sunday shift when he rises from the pit at 12. Much fairer.

schlurple I totally agree with your post.

I think the OP wants him to get up on the Saturday so she can lie in til about half 9 before going to her class, then he lies in on the Sunday? I think she's pissed off because he basically lies in until 10 on the saturday anyway then has a mega lie on on the Sunday

Yep Statistically has got what I meant. It just seems fairest that way.

How can 10 am not be a lie in?
How old is your DS?
My head is spinning.
So many "unreasonables" from your DP. Sorry.

Because he thinks a lie is being able to wake naturally when you are ready. I am just grateful for an hour or two in the bed without ds climbing on my head, telling me yo 'ove or trying to help himself to my breasts.

Ds is 19 months, doesn't sleep through the night which I deal with and gets up super early. Cant wait until he is like ds1 who I have to drag out of bed!

Oh dear.

Is this the right time to mention that I've long believed we need a [shovel]
Emoticom?

Would the shovel be to hit him over the head with?

Also for digging the hole.
Dual purpose

Half past twelve???

How is that a lie in-that's a waste of a day!!

I do understand that people want a lie in, but really (imo), there comes a point that when you have young kids there has to be compromise/sacrifice even.

And that to me means no lolling in bed until afternoon!

Unless ill.