To want to say I told you so?

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To my friend. I know her from another forum we have become good friends in RL. Know her over 6 years.

I posted before that she found out her Dh cheated. She confided in me. She buried her head in sand. There was no consequences for him. No counselling etc. A month later she was pregnant.

She's now posted on the other forum that he's out watching the rugby. She's not feeling well but he's now out for the night and she's at home with their ds.

I want to slap her and say why wouldn't he???? She has accepted his lack of respect towards her so now she can't complain.

So you think he has to spend the rest of his life trying to make it up to her that he cheated? That is no way to live. When you decide to take a cheating partner back you have to agree to move on and not bring it up at every opportunity.

No real friend would ever say I told you so to someone who has been so badly hurt in the past.

There's a fairly big spectrum between "not feeling well" and actually being ill. If I wasn't feeling well, I'd lie out on the sofa watching crap telly, or get myself to bed early and be quite happy if Dh was out with his pals. If I was actually ill, ie vomiting, temperature, flu, etc - then I'd very much expect Dh to be around to look after me and Dc's, and would be mighty pissed off if he stayed out with his pals.

I do have a friend who becomes ill every time her Dh wants a rare night out with his friends. I'm not suggesting for a second that this is what your friend is doing, but it's not unheard of.

Many couples do recover from affairs. I don't think I could personally, but then I've never been tested in that respect. It doesn't mean she should have to put up with crap forevermore. If you are a true friend, just support her, and be around if it all does go pear shaped. Saying "I told you so" is rarely helpful.

Does her husband know she knows he cheated on her?

Yes...I must say I do agree with mrsDevere - his cheating asides, I think it's ok to go out socialising at the rugby. I never expected my dh to never go out because I was pg.
On this occasion I can't he's done anything to crow complain about.

If he's had an affair it could be that she wants him at home with her due to the trust issues she may now have. Which she should stfu about and accept clearly as she took him back- or so the OP thinks

I really think you should do her a favour and dump her as a friend