My brother is v rude- yes he has severe mental health difficulties

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Aibu? Actually I know im not. My brother is extremely rude (by ordinary social convention, he says inappropriate things, barges in etc, can even feel intimidating. But I know he is very ill. He has never lived independently and it is absolutely tragic.
I get so upset by the vitriol that is shown to posters when they wonder if rude or antisocial people they encounter may have something wrong. I do not find this offensive but find it hopeful and really wish it wasn't so discouraged here. Yes many people with SN show none of these traits but there are others who do. Not getting the world in an ordinary way can make people behave in ways that others find hard to understand- I would rather people wondered is there something else going on than just condemned them.

I suppose that I think people do not tend to behave horribly if they feel genuinely good and secure. There are degrees of this, from having a headache making somebody a bit grumpy to serious mental distress causing more disturbing behaviour.
The argument (and fact) that many or most people with difficulties do not behave in disturbing ways is not really relevant to recognising that unfortunately some do.

Op I know were your coming from my next door neighbour is very rude swears at him elderly mum tried it with my once I put him straight I can tell you

But because he is disabled no one one my road dare say anything hence this escalating to him spitting at a man who tried to help him up from falling over in the road

I would say my brother has always felt good and secure twisted he has never been lacking in self confidence. Quite the opposite.

It is obvious that you love your brother very much.

I am sad that I cannot feel the same way about mine but it is because he is such a cunt to everyone.

OP- Completely understand. I think sadly that it will always be the case unless we all start wearing badges saying 'asd', 'personality disorder' etc..
Different people behave in different ways for different reasons and I think that people do accept that to an extent but while theirs naivety their is also understanding. We all have different experiences and deal with these experiences differently, I get all sorts of abuse on a daily basis due to the people that I work with and to an extent ds1 who has ASD but I wouldn't expect others to put up with it.