aibu to think this person is just a hypochondriac and should grow up

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girl in work is constantly off work sick. I mean she is in 2 weeks out for 3. we are lucky enough that in our jobs it just means no pay and not losing your job but still she is not replaced. stomach flu, eye infection, aches n pains ... sick of her being sick. think she needs to toughen up, take a tonic and just get on with it. its the rest of us that have to cover for her and hear about how ill she is all the time. reckon half of it is in her head.

Also to the person who suggested she would have told work if she had a chronic illness. Maybe she told the people who need to know. Just realised this is a reverse. Tell them to fuck off and mind their own business. As long as hr know and you are backed up by drs etc what the actual fuck has it got to do with anyone else.

cravey READ THE WHOLE THREAD

Foxes read my second post, I said I just realised what it was ! No need for the eye rolling. We all make mistakes. Anything else ?

Isn't a large part of the issue the fact that the management expect everyone to cover. I have had many jobs like this where there are N number of people expected in of a day but then some are sick and then everyone is expected to cover, no extra money is offered etc. When someone is off a lot and it is a predictable thing by the management, the fact that extra staff are not drafted in to help causes resentment.
We have this at work and are told it is the nature of the work. No it isn't it's crap management!

OP I feel your pain. I have several chronic conditions (including fibromyalgia) and am usually able to work for around 5-6 weeks before something gets me. Simple things like a cold take 3x as long to get over, sprained joints take longer to recover from use to other health problems etc.

I get snippy remarks from colleagues who, are really very lazy and tbh I'm probably more productive than they are if you average everything out!

I will never pass my end of year performance management scheme paperwork due to my sickness but I have a job. So for that I'm grateful.

Sadly you need a very thick skin if you have a chronic illness.

Sympathy here, too. I got sicker & sicker due to stress - it was a very high-pressure job in a bullying institution, so each absence piled on the stress even more I eventually got a diagnosis and the company made 'reasonable adjustments' including a serious downward adjustment to my pay. They made me redundant the first excuse they got, which was expected tbh.

I took a very matter-of-fact approach with my co-workers. I didn't make a huge deal out of it, but made clear there was an underlying condition. I had to field a few snarky remarks about how well I looked (after spending a week flat out in bed, I should hope I did!) but, also, found others were more open about how stress was getting to them and interested in what I was learning about treatment.

Swings and roundabouts, basically. Obviously I'd rather still be doing loads and earning loads, but you have to play the cards life deals you ... sorry for the cliché overload there

It's between her and HR/management.

Almost anything which would make sense of her chronic sickness would be confidential and between them, so you don't know. Sorry YABU.

sorry your family are not more supportive

i think its the comments like just go to work you will feel better that are making you worried abut this

when your told that, what do you reply?

I have the same issue with a colleague who is always off sick and our boss nevers covers her duty, we have to all muck in! Shes one of those if you have it shes had in ten times worse!Never puts a full month in, she works 3 days a week, & goes for docs appointments on her days in, never her days off! begs for operations - , had various 'emergency accidents' at work where she insists on being carried out in an ambulance then sits at home for 8 weeks off, but goes out shopping/pub - even same pub as the boss!! latest - 2 hr outpatients simple op, now off for another 8 weeks on full pay- allegeldy torn ligaments in ankle- yeah right, she walks around in 4 inch heels!
Dont know whether to pity her or admire her cheek! BTW shes 58,!

Please people, read the entire thread before commenting.

I have an immune based neurological disability - my immune system is low and I get 5-weekly hospital infusions (takes a whole day!) of immunoglobulins to support my immune system and therefore protect my nerves.

But I still get infections more easily than other folk. Colds, d&v, utis etc. and any infections mean my nervous system suffers and I get relapses - unable to walk and climb stairs, numbness, pain, pins and needles, trouble with continence.

In the end I've had to accept that full time work just isn't for me any more. I have 3 dc as well (10,12,14) and a dh with long hours (ironically he's a doctor).

I teach basic skills to adults, mainly young mums, and "family literacy" - ie reading to and with your children. I've gone down to half time but also write training materials from home on a freelance basis.

I'm so sorry you're unwell - living with chronic ill-health isn't in the tiniest bit pleasant and you are trying hard, I can tell. Making reasonable adjustments at work may well mean that though you reduce your weekly hours, you actually end up working more.

thanks for the replies guys. and thanks foxesrevenge but its me own fault for doing a reverse aibu. like I said I wanted people's first raw opinions and I am glad of the responses and hopefully my work colleagues are like you.

mrssnodge its your kind of attitude that I fear the most. I avoid going out at lunch in case I meet someone from work. I ended up going to work xmas do as was a lot better had my fit to resume work cert and all. this was a Friday night sat next to my boss even. Monday morning woke up with strep throat. this kinda shit happens me all the time but of course it looks bad.