Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to get annoyed with friend who just wants to talk about herself all the time

33 replies

lananeeneenoonoo · 19/02/2014 23:13

But apparently listens intently to everyone else. She bangs on about herself and about mutual friends, saying what a bad time poor old X is having, or how cute Y's children are, or whatever, but displays zero interest in what I say.

She also pops up on facebook chat every few days asking how I am, and I'll then reply and she'll then ignore what I've said, write a few paragraphs about herself and her children, and then say "Got to go now, speak soon x"

Like I said she is full of gossip/sympathy/understanding for other people but never acknowledges a thing about me.

OP posts:
IronOrchid · 20/02/2014 11:26

I had one of these, but apparently made myself unavailable too many times as she posted a passive-aggressive note on her FB clearly aimed at me ('if you have to chase friends they're not really friends' sort of thing). Haven't bothered since, and that suits me fine!

Phase her out. Life's too short for these self-centred idiots.

lananeeneenoonoo · 20/02/2014 11:27

TheArcticFunky (Great username BTW!), that is exactly it!

She seems to really arse kiss mutual friends that don't seem to care about her at all, and who, in the most part, ignore her. And then like you say, she takes me for granted.

OP posts:
NeonMuffin · 20/02/2014 11:31

I think everyone either knows or has known someone like this. Simply not interested in anything you have to say or your life, only harp on about themselves and turn every single conversation back to them.

I don't want to be friends with such self absorbed people, but I cut anyone like that out.

lananeeneenoonoo · 20/02/2014 11:47

I'm going to cut her out I think

OP posts:
lananeeneenoonoo · 20/02/2014 22:12

She clearly has something she wants to talk at me about as she's tried to speak to me on facebook this evening. I've just ignored her.

OP posts:
Mim78 · 20/02/2014 23:07

I knew someone like this and eventually I had to drop the friendship as it drove me mad. The final straw was when I got a the job I had wanted since knowing her and her response was "but what about me? I am the only on without a proper job". Afraid I have since resisted several attempts to meet up again with her because I just had enough of it.

SaucyJack · 20/02/2014 23:13

I've got one of these.

She's perfectly normal IRL, but FB chat seems to bring out her worst LOOK AT ME!!!!!! AREN'T I SO CUTE AND WACKY????!!!! side.

Yawn. Just have a normal convo. It's far more interesting.

AChangeOfScene · 20/02/2014 23:19

I have one of these. She doesn't even know my birthday is up and coming this weekend cos she's been so busy trying to organise a trip away for her and her bf she's been with for two years. It's fallen flat on its face cos they are completely skint and they realise they can't afford to go away for the weekend.

I made plans to go out this weekend for a meal with some friends and posted a comment on Facebook about it (but didn't mention it was for my birthday).

My 'friend' who hasn't been invited for the simple fact I thought she was going away for her anniversary (it's not like they're even married) is now trying to muscle in my plans with lines such as 'me and bf have no kids this weekend an we've nothing to do for our anniversary! We're too skint for a hotel' and 'we were thinking of going for a meal - maybe an Italian' - this was after I posted about going for Italian on Facebook with friends. I can tell she's hinting at me big time but I just keep saying 'oh that'll be nice of you two an go for a meal together'.

I just find it rude that I always listen to her problems when most of her problems are self-inflicted. I let her cry on me and chat to me for hours on end even tho I have my own shit to cope with. I don't burden her with my worries, I just crack on. And she's been so wrapped up in going away for her 2 yr anniversary with her bf that she's completely dismissed my birthday (I sound self-centred but I never miss or forget anyone's birthdays and I did mention it not to long ago) and now she can't afford to go away she's hinting BIG TIME that she wants to come out with me and my friends cos I posted some bloody comment on FB!! And the dosey mare still hasn't twigged the reason I'm having this meal in the first place. She couldn't be more obvious if she tried. Some friend!

New posts on this thread. Refresh page