To not want to give away/lend my childhood toys?

[falulahthecat]

So, the other thread about giving away/lending baby stuff has made me wonder about a similar situation.

I had saved a box of my most favourite/precious toys and chucked all the others away/given them to charity when I moved out of home, with the express intention of keeping them for my future children.

DM instead 'gives' them all to my DN as much older DS had sprogs first, when she is still too little to look after them properly and keeps breaking stuff etc.
Mum's position is "I originally paid for it therefore it's not yours" < In fact she did this with lots of things, even books or DVDs I'd been given as Christmas presents she told me I had to leave at hers! I also used to regularly get "This is your present but it's for everyone to use really."

I suppose you could say if I left them there (in storage in the shed) it's my own fault, but she's also asked me to bring back books etc I took with me that are now also getting ruined.

She also threw away the one stuffed toy I absolutely loved from age 4 up, and now tries to deny it/blame it on DF. and refuses to let me have the Piano I got for Birthday+/christmas when I was 10 (sounds extravagant but it was £100 from an old man nearby) because it'll make her dining room look bare.

I've always just thought, ok, I didn't buy it, so I guess it's hers.
AIBU to get annoyed by this though?

YANBU if you want the stuff & feel attached to it - it is yours! Personally I didn't mind when my mum gave most of my old toys to my niece, but then a) I didn't care about them & b) I knew it would be years before I had children.

OTOH DH was quite narked when his parents wouldn't let him take his lovely wooden sledge back to our home for our children to use. The argument was that it should be left there for our boys to use during visits. But it's never once snowed when we've visited the PIL, we don't go there at Christmas, & if there was enough snow to go sledging, it's very unlikely we'd be driving hundreds of miles to the other end of the country in those conditions.

Would be too small for them now, so it's just going to sit forever in their shed as there are no other GC. Seems a bit pointless!

DH has also smuggled out loads of his own lego, corgi vehicles etc. after visits, as he says he wouldn't be allowed to take them if he asked - even though it all belongs to him.

The thread about Enid Blyton the other week got me thinking; pretty sure my mum gave them to DSis for my now teenaged nieces and bet she has binned them

I also like the idea of you going round your mothers and taking your gifts to her back. Just literally pick it up and when she comments tell her that you bought it so its yours.

ANd keep it.

I think yabu if it was left in your parents house. I took stuff from my parents house for my kids, i can't remember what exactly was mine and what was my siblings. Similarly my sister took stuff that would have been mine as a child.

Yanbu at all, I had a book that my nanny bought me when I was newborn ( has a message in it to me and everything) I had it on my bookshelf in my room to save to give to my children ( I was 15 at the time so years ago it still hurts ) my dad gave it away to charity as he thought I was too old for it. She has long since died and now I have children I wish I could read it to them, god I think I am going to cry

YANBU you should take them home with you though to protect them.

I have a few cherished toys from my childhood, my mum never tried to claim any type of ownership of them. That would be weird.

I don't actually mind ds playing with them, even if he abuses them sometimes as since I watched Toy Story I am convinced they are happier being played with than they are sitting in storage or on a shelf.

Anyone other than ds playing with them however gives me the rage totally unreasonable I know.

Look, they are of an older generation...you get stuff for tuppence these days...you really do. The sentimental value of these toys far out weighs what they are worth.

Tell her she knows the price of everything ad the value of nothing and tell her to f off.

My childhood stuff has been lumped in with my sister's and given to our brother, who is the one with kids.

They say, "we're playing with Aunty Grasping's dollies."

I say, "no, you're playing with Aunty Grasping and my dollies" but that makes me sound stupid.

I have been airbrushed out of the family.

Take your piano, OP!

My mother did what rumble's did- I had hundreds of fantastic, well-used, well-loved books... all gone. The only ones that escaped were the dozen or so I took with me to university

I will never do this to my children.