aibu/is it okay to call your 8 year old daughter a c**t

[kennyp]

a friends partner calls their 8 yo daughter a c**t when her behaviour is bad/she answers back (she's a very manipulative child so this could happen often). she said "daddy calls me a C U Next Tuesday" (she knew not to say the word cunt infront of people).

it's got sod all to do wtih me but if my husband called our kids one i would go looopy. i think there's some words children don't need to be exposed to. aibu though?

Yabu for calling an 8 year old a very manipulative child. They are BU for a) him using the word and b) her not throwing him out for using the word about a child, to the child even.
Yabu for calling these people friends.

It's a bit strange. I can see situations where I would see the funny side and situations where it is totally inappropriate.

At 8 years old, I'd find it repellant, at 15 in a humorous way, I'd be able to laugh it off.

I do call DCs little shits quite regularly though so I shouldn't judge

it's my friends partner (i.e. the father of teh child). he's certainly not someone i'd be friends with. it's his girlfriend i knew first.

i think it's horrendous that he calls her that.

My ex was badly abusive to me BUT when he called my (his) ds a cunt that was the day he went!!
He could beat my black and blue etc but in no way was that acceptable, what next a smack, a black eye...

Insulting a child in any terms is NOT ON. All the worse for coming from the child's father. Whatever word he used, his behaviour is vile.

No, not on at all.

He's also putting her at a disadvantage when it comes to school and friends. People won't want their children to socialise with her if she swears and especially if she uses a word like that.

I think there is a difference between swearing in front of children (e.g. saying 'oh shit' when you stub your toe) and swearing AT children (as in the OP). My kids know I swear but also know Mummy is naughty for saying 'shit' when I hurt myself or drop something. I can't ever imagine swearing at them, however annoying they get.

I've reported children using language like that to our cp officer at school before now, I think it's a red flag.

Poor child.

Do you even have to ask? YANBU.

Awful, depressing, and upsetting.

What does your friend think?

I would imagine that comes under some form of verbal abuse. Maybe you should change your friends. They don't sound very nice. I also love that word. When saying it in anger to an adult. Certainly not a child.