None of my friends remembered my birthday :(

[wifey6]

What the title says really...have 3-4 close friends of whom I always buy for & remember their birthdays as well as their children's & today is my birthday & not one of them has even text me
AIBU to be upset?

I've given up expecting anyone to remember my birthday. If I want something to happen, I have to arrange it. I can't be bothered half the time, as clearly no one else cares enough to bother.

I struggle to remember my friends birthday, my brain just doesn't retain dates, and when I realise I've missed one, I always think 'but why didn't you remind me?'. Having learnt from this and because I know I will irrationally get a bit sad on the day if I don't get at least one text I do make a point of casually mentioning that my birthday is coming up in the weeks leading to it. I wouldn't be devastated if they didn't remember but it is nice to be celebrated once in a while and so I find giving them a helping hand is the best way to avoid disappointment.

Happy birthday from another fellow birthday girl. Maybe the fact that it's Sunday made a difference? And BTW my own sister forgets mine every year, it would have been totally unexpected for me to hear from her today... And no, I tend not to forget hers, and normally manage to send something in time even though she's abroad.

Anja..happy birthday!

I only remember birthdays when facebook reminds me these days (apart from short list of very close family). But then no one amongst my friends makes a big thing of birthdays, except very occasionally when it's a big number and I would be reminded by an invitation to a party or whatever. Is it really normal for people to make a big fuss of adults' birthdays?

Happy Birthday Wifey, Loopy and Anja!

Happy Birthday Wifey and Loopy

Some friends eh?

Happy birthday to you too anja

I'm afraid that as you get older you need to put the effort in yourself. At work I usually announce a few days before that I'll be bringing in cake for my birthday. I don't expect anything from colleagues, except to share a piece of cake over coffee - and no, I don't force anyone who doesn't want a piece to have some - it leaves more for those of us who want to eat it.

Yanbu.

Happy birthday Wifey, Loopy and Anja

Yanbu to feel sad but I doubt your best friend meant to upset you. Maybe she's having a quiet few days at home because she's absolutely knackered and she clean forgot your birthday.

Expat you're right, most adults don't make a "big fuss" about friends birthdays. It's hardly abnormal to send a card or text though is it?

Oh and happy birthday

Happy birthday OP! I can understand why you'd be hurt; I would too. There will though come a point when your friends realise what they did (possibly when you remember their next birthdays) and the consumption of humble pie on their part will be vast...