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to be anoyed that one of my facebook friends has reported a photo because it shows breastfeeding and then stayed friends with me?

32 replies

ikeaismylocal · 16/02/2014 17:57

I have a couple of photos of me breastfeeding my ds on my facebook page, I have other photos not including breastfeeding and it's been about 2 or 3 breastfeeding photos in 14 months so by no means regularly, the images don't show any nipple but it's clear ds is breastfeeding.

I was sent a notification from Facebook informing me that 2 of my photos had been reported or pornographic content or nudity.

They reviewed the images and decided they were not pornographic or containing nudity so they were not removed.

The only people who can see my images are friends, I still have the same amount of friends that I've had for ages so no one has unfriended me.

Aibu to think that if someone's photos offend you it is better to just unfriend them or hide their updates? At the very least it's a good idea to unfriend them after you have reported their photos.

I feel like making one of the "offensive" images my profile photo so whoever felt the need to report it realises their concerns were unfounded.Blush

P.s. Sorry I know it's a Facebook aibu

OP posts:
AbbeyBartlet · 16/02/2014 18:00

But if one of your friends likes or comments on your picture, then their friends will be able to see them. So it could be anyone on Facebook that reported it.

lljkk · 16/02/2014 18:00

I'd be very incensed as well.
I know it's best not to do anything impulsively but I'd be sorely tempted to have a very public moan on FB about so-called "friends".
And as for FB's policy; don't even get me started. Angry

sparklyma · 16/02/2014 18:01

I think breast feeding photos don't need to be put on fb to be honest. I wouldn't report it but I don't think it's necessary.

softlysoftly · 16/02/2014 18:03

Did anyone like the photos?

If so its not just your friends that have seen them, it could be friends of theirs.

CrohnicallyFarting · 16/02/2014 18:04

sparkly you could say the same about any image on FB. Or post, for that matter. No, they don't need to be put on FB but they're not pornographic or showing nudity, so no reason not to.

KiwiBanana · 16/02/2014 18:05

That's sad isn't it :(

You'd think if they felt that strongly they'd have the guts to say something to you.

I would try forget about it though. Their opinion shouldn't affect you and your DS.

Seff · 16/02/2014 18:07

What's wrong with breastfeeding photos?

I see tons of photos of babies and toddlers eating and drinking - whether that be breastfeeding, bottles, or the obligatory baby covered in tomato sauce shot!

There's loads of pornographic photos on facebook, why are people offended by a baby?

HighlanderMam · 16/02/2014 18:09

That's not true Abbeybartlet

Not if you have your albums set to 'friends only'.

DomesticDisgrace · 16/02/2014 18:09

Oh I'd be enraged!

HighlanderMam · 16/02/2014 18:10

Not true softly softly.

If you have your albums set to 'friends only' then only friends can see them, only if they are set to 'public' then what you say is true.

OwlCapone · 16/02/2014 18:11

I think breast feeding photos don't need to be put on fb to be honest. I wouldn't report it but I don't think it's necessary.

Are you usually this uptight about something that's perfectly normal and natural?

HighlanderMam · 16/02/2014 18:12

sparklyma

No photos need to be on facebook.

If someone wants to share family photos then there is nothing wrong with that.

RunRunRuby · 16/02/2014 18:12

I'm pretty sure you can restrict it so that people can't see your photos even if your friends have liked them. So it may be that truly only OP's friends can see them.

I'd far rather see a photo of a baby being fed than people making drunken fools of themselves or smug people posting about good deeds they've done, which is what my newsfeed is full of at the moment!

Feeding is a pretty big part of a baby's life, so why not have photos of it?

I'd be tempted to post links to lots of breast feeding articles and wait for the reporter to explode with rage/disgust/prudishness and out themselves Grin

I will withdraw my support if you turn out to be one of those gross parents who posts photographs or graphic descriptions of their child's bowel movements though Grin

HighlanderMam · 16/02/2014 18:14

Some people are just knobheads OP.

YANBU to be annoyed. Last laugh is yours though. Your photos weren't removed, and whoever reported them, well, they're just sad and pathetic.

Original poster
ikeaismylocal · 16/02/2014 18:29

I don't think friends of friends can see the photos as they are set to friends only.

I know I don't need to post breastfeeding photos, but I spend so much time breastfeeding.

I am tempted to have a little facebook moan.

OP posts:
Seff · 16/02/2014 18:34

I really don't understand why people think breastfeeding photos are offensive or inappropriate Confused

Mintyy · 16/02/2014 18:37

I think you should just ask outright on your status "Right, who reported my breastfeeding pictures then?"

Fairylea · 16/02/2014 18:42

I'd post a massive photo of an iced bun with a cherry (suggestive looking if you see what I mean) and ask openly "who is the tit who reported my breastfeeding photos?" - let them know you know. I'd be really angry too.

VegetariansTasteLikeChicken · 16/02/2014 18:52

I think breast feeding photos don't need to be put on fb to be honest. I wouldn't report it but I don't think it's necessary.

What about babies drinking from a bottle? Op said you can't see any nipple.. it's just litterally a baby near a boob. Who gets offended by that?

MissHobart · 16/02/2014 18:53

What fairylea said! Nothing wrong with breastfeeding photos, you see topless men and women in bikinis.

There's an option to hide posts/pictures from your feed if you don't want to see it without unfriending them!

VegetariansTasteLikeChicken · 16/02/2014 18:54

OP but do make sure you go through and that actually all your photos are set to private- friends only. It might be that it wasn't a friend which wouldn't be ideal but at least it was no one you know.

PlateSpinningAtAllTimes · 16/02/2014 19:09

YANBU. My rule of thumb is that if bottle feeding is ok, breastfeeding is ok. Loads of people post pics of babies having bottle feeds, so why not breast feeds? I agree with the pp who suggested posting an article or pic about bfing. Less obviously passive aggressive than a rant. Search 'refresh me' - they usually post stuff about silly fb rulings where bf pictures are banned.

LovelyJubblies · 16/02/2014 19:15

I agree with Mintyy and Fairylea, I would have to ask who reported the picture and please unfriend me.
What an ignoramus

sykadelic15 · 16/02/2014 19:26

Just as you have the right to post them, people have the right to report them. FB disagreed with their report and didn't delete them, so no drama.

I don't personally agree with posting such personal photos (I'm not talking specifically breast feeding and yes I'm aware I'm a bit of a prude about it) but I wouldn't waste time reporting them because I'm aware it's MY issue and would simply hide them.

I agree with posting a status about it but more like: "Just received notification from FB that 2 of my photos were reported for nudity/pornography. These photos were NOT removed by FB because they were found to not be offensive. What photos were reported? Photos of me breast-feeding my child. If you are offended by it, please either hide these photos from your view or unfriend me because they're not going anywhere!"

maras2 · 16/02/2014 19:29

Breast feeding is a wonderful thing but why feel the need to show a lovely tender < very natural > act for all and sundry to see. You must know that some unenlightenrd idiot would cause a fuss. Facebook is massive. Nothing is private. Ever.