I really don't know how to word this without making him seem like an arse because he really isn't, I know it's well-intentioned and that he means well.
The main problem is, my partner keeps asking me whether there is something wrong, or telling me that I have a tone in my voice which makes him doubtful that I'm 'alright' or that I'm not telling him something when I'm unhappy. The problem is. it's creating a major problem with me because I'm starting to feel on edge around him and I don't really know what to do.
I sat down with him a week or so ago and reassured him that if something was wrong, I'd tell him all about it, but that his second-guessing was driving me mad, and he seemed to accept it. But today is a great example - I've had a really long week, and I'm absolutely tired out. He doesn't take the fact that I look tired into account, instead I've had a fairly constant stream of 'What is the matter' or 'are you SURE' whenever I say I'm alright. I was having a bath when he asked me a question and then followed it up with 'are you sure because you don't sound like you're happy' (my frickin' face was pretty much underwater at the time, I don't know how he expects me to sound!) and so I shouted that I was fine, and a big argument ensued - which I know he'll then take as proof that I wasn't alright after all.
It really is getting to the point where I can't deal with it all the time. He'll make comments about me looking at other men in the gym and then say he was only joking, but I know he's insecure about it, so it then makes me doubly-worse because I'm constantly worrying about him AND worrying about where I look so I don't upset him.
I'm at a loss of what to do. He really is the perfect husband in every way and I don't want to get rid of him or anything drastic, but he will not accept that he's doing anything wrong - I love him to bits but I can't keep going like this if he won't accept that I'll just bloody tell him if I have a problem. any help greatly appreciated.