To take child with a temperature to a birthday party

[PiratePanda]

Posting in here for a quick response. I'm pretty sure IWBU but here goes:

It's DS's best nursery friend's birthday party today; they're inseparable. DS, however, has been off nursery since Thursday afternoon with a temperature, and he still has it this morning.

He's not particularly poorly - he's jumping around and playing with lego; basically it's just a bad cold. But he does have a temperature.

He will be devastated not to go to the party and so will the birthday girl. But I really do have to keep him home don't I?

Can't understand why parents take their ill children out to infect everyone else. It really gets me down - very selfish behaviour. I know too many of the 'my life will continue, no matter how s* my DC is feeling' brigade.
I strongly suspect that it is because of one of them that I am lying in bed feeling 'orrible at 40wks pregnant.

Cat size - sorry you are feeling poorly but I don't think it is selfish to send a child who has a bit of a cold to a party. You can't quarantine a child every time they have a bit of a temperature. I know there are people with compromised immune systems but at this time of year it's almost impossible to avoid kids and adults walking around full of snot and coughing Obviously if the child is clearly unwell with more than just a cold then keep him/her in and away from others.

Please God don't let it be scarlet fever!. You think that's a possibility, and you still asked should you take him to a birthday party?
What is wrong with some people??

I'm suprised you actually have to ask other people something which is so blindingly obvious.

She's not sure so she asked. Nothing wrong with asking.

Flogging - she doesn't think it's Scarlet Fever, she thinks it's a cold! Another poster mentioned Scarlet Fever.

No, I was really just looking for some sturdy reinforcement for my basic instinct that I really shouldn't take him, when he was so upset about not going.

You can't quarantine a child every time they have a bit of a temperature.

Nice! Erm, most of the time you can. A party is somewhere they shouldn't really be. Hardly an essential. And how many times do you see a blatantly ill child dragged out? As adults we wouldn't be up for a day/night out if ill with temp etc.
Had my friend quarantined her child, I might not be facing the prospect of labour feeling this rubbish.

you can't quarantine a child every time they hav a temperature
actually you can, if the alternative is having them. It with a group of children who then all risk becoming ill.

I actually thought that the high temp thing is exactly the cut off to keep your child at home. A bit snotty but no temp then carry on and can go out - albeit chasing said child with hankies all the time. A temperature but feeling ok (or temp but brought down by calpol or ibuprofen) then carry on where possible but not around other people. A temperature and feeling poorly then duvet day and snuggles on the sofa or in bed.
Hope your DS is better soon and you can do something special with his friend another time