DH normally messages me to say when he will be home, I haven't heard anything all day should I be angry, worried.

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DH at a conference somwhere in Amsterdam, did nor mention he would be late, normally home by now or texted or phoned I have heard nothing, he nearly always contacts me during the day, nothing today. I have both phoned and sent messages no answer. Am I wrong to worry ir be angry or both? (I live in the Netherlands hence him being in Amsterdam)

Glad you've had time to realise you don't need to be angry with him and can enjoy a lovely evening together

Thanks imnotmad, its nice to hear I am not the only one that feels this way, Sparkly I don't need to know where my partner is all the time, he was late home, I was making dinner, he hadn't said he would be late, so as i hadn't heard from him I started to worry and then when he didn't answer his phone or answer my messages I got angry. This is a man who contacts me several times a day and always tells me what time he will be home, I have never asked him to do this and I hardly ever contact him during the day unless he has contacted me first.
I did explain that I am very stressed at the moment and unfortunately this leads to me getting angry very easily I know this is a problem and am having counseling for this and other problems, I hope you never suffer with mental Health problems

I do understand - my husband always lets me know when he is on his way home as he works irregular hours in a variety of places and can sometimes be hours longer than expected.
If he doesn't let me know, I do worry about him, precisely because he is normally so reliable. Usually it's something simple such as dead mobile or text missing in the ether, but I don't think it's unreasonable to be concerned if someone deviates from their normal routines, especially when they work in potentially volatile environments with people who wouldn't know who to call if they were in trouble (I mean family-wise - I suspect that they would manage the emergency services if it came to it! ).
I suppose it's just one of those things where the idea pops into your head and then is hard to shift, but I'm glad it's not going to ruin your night and hopefully his understanding and love will help you to manage your stress. Happy Valentine's Day!

We don't control our mh issues and the op is working on it. I think if her dp knows she worries he should have thought more and contacted her.