I was in an utterly miserable abusive marriage a few years ago. My mum was mentally ill and abusive for the entirety of my childhood. My dp had an unhappy marriage and his wife cheated. We've now been together for almost five years and are blissfully happy. I was speaking to mil about Valentines day today on the phone while my sister was here. I told mil how dp had left a rose, teddy and chocolate in the car each to surprise the kids and flowers, chocolates and a card for me. I said the kids had made him a huge card and banner, a heart shaped cake etc and that they're Making a menu for a love themed dinner tonight to have by candlelight and surprise him after work. Mil asked me to put a photo on facebook and I said I would. After the call my sister said I should think before 'flaunting' my happiness, that it's a bit sickening and not fair on people who are unhappy. Aibu?