To be hacked off at school for encouraging valentine roses in class

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Dd at local faith comprehensive school.
This year, the school is running a delivery service on valentines day, pay 60p for a red rose to be delivered to your valentine in class.

Great for those that get them, but pretty sh**ty for those that don't.
So aibu to feel this isn't appropriate in school?

My school used to do that run by the 6th formers for young enterprise.

I was always very thankful that I didn't have the embarrassment of receiving one. Never felt left out at all.

Thanks for your thoughts.
I appreciate it works both ways, for dd her 3 best friends all know they are getting a rose, dd is not expecting any.
But otoh, another of dd's friend has been told that she is getting a dozen from an admirer who wants to ask her out, & she is worrying about how to say no without the boy feeling utterly crushed!

I just think its hard enough being a teenager without all this extra pressure in the classroom

I am with you OP. The school should not be participating in this as it only makes the kids who don't get anything feel even worse.

My DS is in primary 1, so 5 years old. At the school gates yesterday other kids in his class were handing out cards, roses and chocolates to each other. I was baffled. I then noticed on my FB feed pictures of simalarily aged kids posing with their chocs etc. so not just my sons school.

I mean really is this a thing? I honestly just thought, WTF! My DS was totally unbothered and apparently would rather die than give a girl a soppy card and flower. His words obv.!

My children's school also did this for Young Enterprise. It has been going for years. Everybody knows that it is mostly groups of girls sending them to each other. Mine never got one because they didn't belong to that group.Nobody was ever upset ( to my knowledge) it was just a bit of fun.

Nice money making scheme but do we really need to be encouraging teenage hormones and potentially making people feel 'left out'. As for the 5yr olds..words fail me

My son's school have made it an inset day. Genius!

12 years later I still have my rose tucked in the curtains of my room in my mums.

It didn't bother me when I didn't get one and to be honest most kids teased those who did.

Its harmless, let them enjoy it.

This is weird all round. I'd feel uncomfortable if my child got these presents in class. I mean yeah ok if they have a bf/gf but for the school to encourage present buying like this is really weird.

Do you know what bothers me so much about this nonsense? Parents these days cannot put a chocolate bar in a lunchbox, take a camcorder - or event attend sometimes - nativity plays or others put on with their children in, allow their young children to take a day off with them because the school is punitive and lays down the law.

And yet this, this nonsense which has no business in any school. Perceived as money making - possibly. Timewasting - definitely. Schools should be focused on what they need to achieve.

If faux-lapdancing or anything of this nature happened in the workplace there would be writs for sexual discrimination.

If the incidents as described by posters were happening in my child's school, I would be approaching the Parent Governors. Completely unacceptable.

Meant to say - the school are sanctioning this. They shouldn't be. It's not part of any curriculum and completely unnecessary.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe I completely agree.

I don't understand those posters saying it raises money for charity or was for business studies students in their day so is all right.

You've mentioned lap-dancing and I'd put forward selling pay-day loans as perfectly legal ways to earn a living.

Though I wouldn't want to see them condemned, they're not something I'd want to see encouraged at my child's school.

Neither would I welcome obvious opportunities for bullying or the encouragement of a sexual league table in a place where you're meant to be learning and making friends.

Very well put.
I'm very tempted to print this out and forward it to the school.

As expected dd didn't get any roses but "everyone" else did ??