Went out for drinks on Saturday for my birthday with 6 friends. First bar we went into one friend bumped into one guy who she had previously worked with and his friend. I was chatting with his friend and just having a bit of banter.
I went to toilet and my friend grabbed me and said she just had to tell me that her and that man kissed (like 3/4 years ago) and therefore he was "sloppy seconds". Which apparently she kept repeating the whole time I was talking to him to the group of friends.
Also apparently it was horrible of me to talk to his friend as this meant my other friend felt she had to speak with her ex work colleague so he would have someone to talk to. (Other friend never said this to me, this was just an assumption made by said friend)
We went to another bar (just the friendship group), drinks chatted and then went to the third. I was in a very merry mood and feeling confident and I did end up getting chatted up by a couple of guys who I ended up talking to at the bar, bought me a couple of drinks etc- definitely not a common occurrence. (I am very hard on myself and do think of myself as a gremlin but my resolution this year was to just be happy with myself, so just trying to be more confident and out there.)
Another single friend was chatting up a guy, the rest were having fun dancing away. I did chat to the guys for a while, bit hard to remember because I was a little drunk but I was having fun and not hurting anyone and the rest of my friends were also having fun.
Said friend then said - "Is Trees even here tonight?!" - As in I had done something wrong by chatting to these guys.
She did say to my friend that night that she misses being single (she is currently engaged).
Obviously the grass is always greener sort of thing. Being single has its bonuses and being in a good relationship has its bonuses. I sometimes feel sad and even a little jealous that I don't have someone or spend times with a friend and her partner, but I have had toxic relationships in the past so I am very happy to be in a good place now.
Aibu to think there was no need for the bitchy comments even if you are slightly jealous of someone being single? Or did I do something wrong and these comments were fairplay?
(Sorry it's so long, just trying not to drip-feed)