Ok...i am raging!
Ds(9) and dd(10) were told 15 minutes at 6:15pm. Dd was meant to come in then, and ds go into his friends until 7:30pm.
My ds and dd both have phones which they dont use by choice. So neither had taken them. I repeatedly told them the time i wanted them in. First off...aibu to expect it to be their responsibility to then make sure they are home on time? Their friends have phones and so they could ask them!
At 6:45pm i was getting younger dc ready for bed. In the meantime, texting and repeatedly calling ds friend. No answer.
7pm and they still arent here. I have to get younger dc ready and go looking and shouting. They heard me shout...then i get a reply from ds friend.
I sent them to bed after they spoke to me like shit and told me i was shocking and everything as ive told them they are grounded and from now on, in before it gets dark (when they are allowed back out).
Aibu in the way i handled this, as they are both adamant that i am in the wrong here and now im not sure!!
Sorry its so long im so annoyed