Valentines & a row!

[skyblu]

Hi, haven't been on here for years, but really need a sounding board...

Husband did something on Monday which made me furious. Had a bit of row, haven;t been speaking, he totally knows how mad I am. Long story and deep, not a quick thing that will 'blow over'.

Wednesday, he comes home from work very early with a bouquet of my favourite flowers for Valentines Day. I asked why he is home so early and he said he needed to get the to florist to pick the flowers up before they closed.
I told him he is 2 days early but he said he'll prob be busy on Friday might not be able to get out.

1. Is it actually really sweet that he got them early to ensure he could get them (& he knows he is in the wrong, trying to butter me up quicker)

OR

1. Is it even worse that he gets them two days early incase he's 'too busy' on valentines day...knows how to make a girl feel special...not! Last of the old romantics!

I'm feeling 2....but wondering if I'm overlooking 1/being harsh.

How would you feel?

But how can he give you flowers if your furious with him? I think that's totally presumptuous and it would really annoy me.

If he bought them to accompany a sincere apology and genuinely try to make amends, that one thing. But to say it's an early valentines gift when you probably just want to throw them at him, is insensitive.

It's like he's ignoring that fact that you're upset and thinking, just get over it will you.

What's really going on here?

It's got nothing to do with the flowers, you need to talk about the row. Fuck the flowers, pardon my French.

I agree with the majority - the flowers might be an olive branch or an attempt to make up, or they might be a passive aggressive gesture as he has made plans to see his mates on Valentine's day. Without knowing more, it's hard to even take a stab in the dark...