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to ask you what made you fall in love with your dp?

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PiperRose · 13/02/2014 09:09

There's been loads of threads about awful DP's. Let's hear some nice stories, it's Valentine's Day tomorrow, come on ladies and gents share the love.

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PoirotsMoustache · 13/02/2014 10:59

He's incredibly kind and would honestly do anything for me. He makes me feel like a million dollars all the time. He goes out of his way to help anyone who needs it and is amazingly generous with his time and energy. He has the most gorgeous big brown eyes and the way he looks at me makes my knees go wobbly.

I am marrying him in June and it really can't come quickly enough! Grin

ExcuseTypos · 13/02/2014 11:09

When I first met him- his Paul Newman blue eyes, his tallness (he's 6'2"), his confidence and his sense of humour.

Then it was his kindness, generosity- I don't mean just money, I mean the time he has for people, and his positivity. His glass is always half full and I like that. Then there's the sex but we won't mention that!

We got married after only knowing each other for 7 months and celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary this year.

trashcanjunkie · 13/02/2014 11:11

I fell in love with dp when he brought home a fish he'd caught and gutted it on my front doorstep under the watchful gaze of my two younger ds. There was something about his fabulous deep gentle voice, his patience with my children, his incredible muscley shoulders his unassuming strength, and the feeling of being safe, and cherished and absolutely adored

MoominMammasHandbag · 13/02/2014 11:12

All these lovely stories about people falling in love with their DPs because of their kind, lovely personalities.
I must confess I felt like there were fireworks going off all around me the first time I set eyes on DH, before I'd even heard him utter a word. After 5 minutes of speaking to him I was totally, hopelessly smitten. I have never come anywhere near feeling like this with anyone else.
But I got very lucky; DH is as good as he is beautiful. Fell for the looks but got the real deal.

ViviPru · 13/02/2014 11:12

trashcan totally swooning over that.

LaQueenOfHearts · 13/02/2014 11:15

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FlankShaftMcWap · 13/02/2014 11:18

He always shook and did big nervous swallows when I was near him, he still does that when we have a moment sometimes. I love that reverts back to 18 again when I kiss him Smile

He does everything that I do and more, it's never even been a question for him. He'll come home from work to see me frazzled with mental hair and a wild expression with kids, dogs and cats under my feet while I try and cook dinner and he kisses me, scoops up the baby and rounds up the bigger DC before he even gets changed.

He takes off every school holiday to spend time with the DC. Even though being a contractor means no work no pay.

He's never argued with me really, if he's genuinely done something to upset me he apologises and doesn't get defensive. If I'm unreasonably angry and irrational he just wants to know how he can help make things better for me. It really pisses me off in the moment, that he's so zen about everything, but I do appreciate it. I hope he knows that.

Loads more I could put but this is quite long as it is! Going to give him a big hug now Grin

laregina · 13/02/2014 11:23

Previous 'D' P had been an arsehole so I had been off men for a long time. Then met DH on a drunken night out so had my guard down and 'allowed' him to chat me up Smile.

He was lovely from day one - rang when he said he would, did what he said he would, no games, no messing me about. And that, in hand with him being tall, hunky and gorgeous, caused some of my friends to warn me off because 'nobody can be that perfect'.

And I don't want to be too vomit-inducing, but actually he was that perfect and still is - going on 15 years later. I've honestly never met anybody before who has been so loyal, kind, caring and 100% supports and backs me whatever, whenever. He works hard, at work and when he gets home. He makes me laugh. He makes me feel safe. Despite the fact that I'm tall myself, he is still much taller than me and built like a rugby player so can wrap me up in the best hugs in the world. And obviously he's very good (and always very willing) in the sack Wink

RainYourRottingMyDhaliaBulbs · 13/02/2014 11:27

When I first met DH he was very shy and going through a rotten time, I was trying to find him a GF, I was very much helping him and he slowly came out of himself and turned into this wonderful person, or rather who he was, came out..then tragedy hit me and it was very much him helping me, all this time we were friends...first, and I fell in love.
He is a very loving person, I respect his thoughts and ideas on most things and he is a wonderful husband and an amazing Father.

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SwayingBranches · 13/02/2014 11:45

A great listener, kind, always meant what he said, gentle, caring, absolutely hilarious, geeky, very intelligent, beautiful eyes, wonderful smile.

Almost 17 years since we met and he's still all those things and much more, such as a great dad and a rock through my darkest depression. And he still makes me laugh, deep belly laughs.

I love him still with all my heart and apparently he still feels the same about me.

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PiperRose · 13/02/2014 11:45

Ok my turn to share....

On the first date we talked like we had been friends for years.

Although he was too shy to kiss me he rang me an hour later and played guitar and sang down the phone.

He's attentive, loving, gorgeous and amazing in bed.

He sings and plays bass in a band, which is HOT!

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ExcuseTypos · 13/02/2014 11:53

Ah that's lovely Piper. My DH also played the guitar and sang to me on our second date. He still does it now and there's something very specil about that and I still melt when he does it.

ExcuseTypos · 13/02/2014 11:54

Special!!

bellybuttonfairy · 13/02/2014 11:58

My dh was supposed to be a one night stand as I had never had one. I had just come out of a long term relationship and went out with a bunch of friends who insisted that it would be a good idea.

Dh was such a good laugh and an excellent shag that I met up with him a few times afterwards as a little treat to myself.

However, his good company and witty demeanour won me over and I wanted to be with him all the time.

He was always keen as he still is now 15 years later. I still look at him and fancy the pants off him as he is drop dead gorgeous. Hes got an amazing calm nature, I havent heard him even raise his voice in all the time we have been together.

Minnieisthedevilmouse · 13/02/2014 12:16

Tenacity

Had he not made consistent lovely efforts it would never have took off and if be far poorer for that

He's my diamond boy

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Minnieisthedevilmouse · 13/02/2014 12:16

I'd not if

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littleballerina · 13/02/2014 12:21

I'd known dp since I was at school and liked him for ten years although it was just attraction as i was married.

My marriage broke up (not connected in the slightest) and five weeks later dp, who had been a friend, told me that he'd liked me for years.

I'm not sure that I believe him and he doesn't believe me Grin but he's lovely.

I was petrified about losing him as a friend but we took a chance and a year and half later we're living together and he's much too nice to have as 'just' a friend!

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OrangeFizz99 · 13/02/2014 12:26

His brain - met him through work and was blown away by his different take on things. The fact that he is tall, lean and chiseled had nothing to do with it of course.

Nowadays I like the way he totally supports me and pushes me to be the best me I can be, to really find out and doe what makes me happy and to do new things. He is an amazing dad, much better at it than I am at being a mum!

singaporeswing · 13/02/2014 12:42

I've got a thing about the Irish rugby anthem, means a lot to my family etc and mentioned it in passing to DP the second time we met.

A month later, he gets tickets to an Ireland Six Nations match (i couldn't go due to work but was watching on TV). Just as the anthems start, he rings me, says nothing and let's me listen to the Irish anthem 'live'.

He had legged it up the stairs, spilling his pint and leaving his mates, so I could hear it.

I knew then that was it, he was mine and would listen to me, look after me and love me forever.

MiniTheMinx · 13/02/2014 12:44

I don't know, I'm still waiting for it to happen after 15 years Confused

teaandthorazine · 13/02/2014 12:46

He was lovely from day one - rang when he said he would, did what he said he would, no games, no messing me about.

Yes, this. Never gave me a moment's worry or doubt about how he felt or 'where we were going'. That makes it sound a bit unexciting but actually it was bloody lovely and a massive relief.

What I also really love, though, is the way he responds to my ds. He takes a proper interest in ds, really talks to him, takes pleasure in ds's achievements. He gets out of bed at the crack of dawn every Sunday that he's here, in all weathers, to come with me to watch ds play football. He doesn't have to - both ds's father, grandfather and I would go anyway - he does it because he genuinely wants to. The best sound in the world is the sound of dp and ds laughing together. It makes me absolutely melt.