To think I must be really annoying?

[Reallynotsuretbh]

Namechanged. Long story shirt since having dd I've met some nice new people some of which I've become friends with. But there have now been 3 different women that have asked for my number and to meet up with me and dd for coffee/play date etc then after the meetup nothing. Each time its been left to them to get back to me when they're free to meet up and I've not heard back. Weirdly I thought they all gone well I'm not expecting to be best mates with everyone but Im starting to get paranoid that I'm really annoying or something?!

When I had dcs I felt catapaulted back into the world of dating/going out with people - except this time it was same sex!

You meet other mums, you sort of circle around each other chatting, sizing each other up for something in common, then one tentatively suggests taking things a bit further with... a coffee. And then you might get the brush off, eg "I'm, er, returning to work next week and will never be available again," or you do meet up and you find they're unsuitable friend material (lentil weaver/mother of the year/horrible bitch/dullard) and then you have to try to cast them off (or be dumped yourself!).

Only last week I plucked up courage to ask someone if they'd like to meet for a coffee. The awful split second where you see their brain cogs whirring computing whether to say yes or no. I don't know how blokes (and it is 99% blokes) ever dare ask a woman out.

It really is like dating! And although the 3 'asked me out' I feel like I've been dumped lol. DH has told me to 'play it cool' with them

Your DH is right I think. I think, quite naturally, if this happens more than once you do feel a bit weird about it. The thing is you've said you do have some lovely friends so I'm sure it's not that you're not good company.

I think its probably because you said give me a text when you're free which is fairly casual and when people are busy with small children they are probably thinking oh yes we'll get together in a week or so/ couple of weeks or so. Its probably not that they are not into you but that they are after a more casual friendships but then close frienships often start with sporadic coffees which then become more often etc. I would wait a week and then text saying what one of the other posters said, ' I am going to x place tomorrow wonder if any of you fancy meeting there. If so see you there or something like that. That is casual, gives the impression you are texting more than one person and its nice and light. if they don't respond then don't initiate any more contact . Let us know how it goes.

I met another single mum when I was away and as we lived near she said we should get together. Didn't end up exchanging numbers but a few weeks later she asked someone who was my friend on Facebook to message me with her number.

So I text her and said we go to a certain park near where she lives, let me know when you're free to meet up.
She replied yes love that park and we should meet up.
So I replied great, let me know when you're free.
She replied she would and that was weeks ago!!!!

So my point is she went out of her way to track me down and still hasn't said when she's free to meet up. So it can't be something I've done! I'd actually forgotten all about it till I read your op.
If you feel like you clicked with them I would definitely make the effort and get in touch. It's worth another shot.
I'm always open to making new friends but have a lot already so I don't get too bothered if it doesn't happen.

Maybe send a quick text? It's hard isnt it I've made some friends since having my dd and agree it is like dating