AIBU about DDs glasses?

[AwfulMaureen]

DD is 5 and in year one. She got glasses before Christmas....the optician warned that 5 year olds do tend to break them quite often and to be prepared for that.

She only needs to wear them in the classroom which I was glad about as more likely to be broken when she's running about.

Anyway...the optician says it's Very important that she wear them as her left eye is weak and the glasses will strengthen it...her eyes will "set" in about a year and then that's that...

She keeps coming out without them at the end of the day...and I know it is ultimately her responsibility but she's five and most kids her age are forgetful but really...that's not such a problem as I can check and then send her back for them....but it shows that the teachers aren't making her wear them...or even reminding her to put them back on after lunch break.

They're meant to be on her face the whole time she is indoors.

Yesterday, DD had an after school club...so when she was sent out by the club leader, I asked DD for her glasses and she said she couldn't remember where they were. We had a check and no sign...no teacher either.

This morning, I had a word with one of her teachers and said "Are DDs glasses inside? She forgot them last night"

And the teacher said "Oh they're broken."

I was as this is the third time now since she's had them and also, the teacher should have made sure that I knew yesterday...and that I got them back...I could have taken them to be mended last night after school club. All it would have taken was to pop them in DDs bag with a note...

As it is DD now has no glasses all day.

Teacher couldn't tell me how they were broken even though DD only wears them in the classroom. AIBU or should teachers take a bit more care over a 5 year old's glassses?

Yanbu. My older dd has to wear her glasses all the time, but in her classroom, they have a list on the wall of children who wear them just for s=reading, they are 7/8 year olds.

To be honest, it annoys me, when on a thread like this, people say, "Oh, the teacher has to do this for this child, make sure that child is doing that, stop another child from doing another thing, look after child xyz ..... etc " and so on. Because, you see the argument suggests that the teacher is busy doing things for other children and can't do anything for yours. Is your child less important? No. Will the teacher have to do it forever? No. For a week or so until it is ingrained? Perhaps. So, YANBU.

A big part of Reception and Year 1 is accepting responsibility for your own possessions and actions (shoe bags, gym kits, homework etc.). You and your child have to accept that they're not the only child in the class and the teacher has a million other things to do in the course of a school day than be arsed looking for your DD's specs, broken or otherwise.

Sorry, but I find parents like you really irritating. It's always someone else's job to look after your child's stuff, er, no it isn't.

Bit harsh , lazyhound.

Sorry havnt read through, may be duplicating.

I would ask for a referral to orthoptics, just a couple of things don't seem quite right. Firstly no matter how weak glasses are children need to wear them full time till at least 6 or older, vision stops developing then.

Also if she has one eye that's weaker than the other it's important her vision is monitored closely, she may need an eye patch.

Just read through!

I don't understand why the optician says she needs to practice longsighted without them.

Not something I've heard of or understand, I'm a hospital eye specialist.

Pop them on full time, they shouldn't then get lost or broken and ask your GP to refer to hospital eye service.

Sorry, another post.

The more she wears the glasses the more her vision will develop and she has a better chance of not needing them.

Vision only develops and can only be improved till about age 7

Is this advice from a hih street optician? We are a squinting, long sighted family, all mine are under the hospital orthoptists as I was until 12. Would be very worried that you are missing out on a window for patching if it is needed and have also never heard of practising longsight without glasses?

have you tried googling virtually unbreakable childrens glasses? ive had a peek they seem bendy and twisty it might be worth splashing out?

flashback to previous life and previous job alert....

kids specs are often free, but you could do with a second pair as a spare. when i worked in optics the most broken specs were childrens - we used to wangle it so a repair voucher could be used - find a sympathetic optician and ask about repair vouchers in the case of broken specs - dont pay for expensive frames - they get some hammer from kids and the will inevitably break them - its kids. they lose things, break things. at 5 i would expect it.
you want free specs and ask about repair vouchers.....dont pay out for kids specs. they just dont last long enough - and they grow out of them if they dont get broken.
2 pairs is a must.
we had kids mums who used to practically live in our opticians!

i don't understand the longsighted thing either, dd is longsighted and she wears her glasses all the time. have also done 9 months of patching on dd's weaker left eye between the ages of 5 and 6yrs.

op, what prescription is your dd wearing?