To want the neighbours to replace their fence

[pinkbear82]

I know we are in devon, and I know the weather has been awful but, the rather flimsy fence dividing our garden and the neighbours has been totally blown down.

Because it had been looking dodgy for a while, I had called our landlord to check if it was something 'we' needed to be replacing. Nope, it's our neighbours fence.

Now, it really wouldn't bother me but, we have two dogs, two dogs that like to spend time outside, in their own garden. I often leave the back door open so they are free to go in and out as and when they like.

The mutts are quite happy having a new garden to explore, I on the other hand am not and I doubt the neighbours would if they realised I also am not liking the fact they now have to be restricted and supervised. Neither are they.

It's been down a week, wibu to pop round and ask what is happening? I'm resisting letting the dogs wonder, but it is getting tempting.

There was a spate of this round here too owl apparently cats love drinking it. Then they die horribly.

you dont need your landlords permission to replace fence panels if you are paying to replace them yourself
maybe you could offer to go halves on replacing them if the neighbours dont want to replace them
or keep your dogs in

Our neighbours just got a dog that our flimsy fence wouldn't contain. They recognised it was their need an politely asked if they could strengthen and raise the fence. Shows a difference in attitude! We would not having chosen to spend our limited budget on their dogs needs.

YABVU. Your dogs are your responsibility and the lack of a fence is no excuse for them running into neighbours' garden (and possibly crapping there!)
You sound very passive aggressive with the 'I'm tempted to let them wander...'
Not nice.

As above - YABVU - your dogs - your responsibility.

We cannot put a replacement fence up, the landlord has made it quite clear it is their fence and nothing to do with him replacing it

This sounds to me like you asked the landlord to replace the fence? What does he say if you offer to pay?

I should clarify, I am not expecting them to replace them for our benifit.

I am not letting my dogs wonder and certainly am not letting them crap in anyone else's garden.

If I had a spare £100 or however much it cost I would happily sort it myself. However, it may be sensible to check what/if they plan on doing before hand.

When I said about letting them wonder, it was in jest, I certainly try and treat my neighbours as I would like to be treated, and pissing them off by intentionally doing something like that is not something I plan on doing. If I came across as passive aggressive then I apologise, I'll blame the lack of sleep from night feeds with my 8 month old. It certainly was not meant in any aggressive way, passive or otherwise.

By the way - they might not mind having your dogs in their garden. I am a dog lover but we can't have a dog of our own, I would love it if the neighbours had one that visited us :)

YABVU your dogs are your responsibility.It is your job to keep them safe and out of peoples gardens.

I understand it being annoying,but it's not their fault or responsibility to contain your dogs.

Just ask them if they are replacing it or need a hand.Then go buy your own fence if you don't like their (entitled) response.

Ask the landlord if you can put your own fence up,within your bounderies (inside their fence) rather than asking about the one already there.

Tough if they are having work done,it's not the most suitable time to put a fence up and it's up to them when they want to do it.