To look after the baby myself and not really mind?

[Leonas]

We have a 10 week old baby and from day 1 I have done all of the feeds, baths, nappies (more or less) myself. I'm bf so my dp feed her anyway and he works over 80 hours a week (he has 3 jobs) so I don't expect him to come home and get straight into changing etc.
He adores her and loves chatting away to her and cuddles. We have no family nearby so I have just always done all of it myself. I have had some pretty crap days and nights but I suppose I am lucky that she is an easy baby, despite being colicky too.
I keep reading posts from mums saying they need their dp to do more, which I completely understand but has anyone else not minded doing it themselves? Just curious really, I suppose.
I know I will probably be flamed for being a mug/ pushover/ setting feminism back 50 years but I genuinely feel like he is contributing by knocking his pan in working so much to provide for us.

Leonas

I remember in the days with my first, before she started to move...

" Wow, this is so easy...yes a few sleepless nights but so what...she sleeps in the day, i sleep when she does, usually or I have a nice break"

Then she started to move, exert herself and she decided she didnt want that day time nap any more way before her peers...

i was not quite so smug any more and by 6pm would be desperate for that door to open, dh to walk in and take over ( which he gladly did)

10 weeks is nothing. You're not even 20% of the way through the first year yet - and there are many more years ahead! Be careful about setting in stone that you do everything for the baby. It's fairly standard if you're bf and your DH works long hours for the mother to do everything in the early days - I did the night wakings because I was terrified of the idea of DH driving down the motorway after disturbed sleep, I did all the feeds because I was bf etc etc. But would I have wanted this to remain the case permanently?? No way! Enjoy doing everything for your little new baby for as long as it works for all of you, but realise that there probably will come a time when you want some help/a break - and there may well come a time when your DH wants to get some time one-to-one with your baby/toddler too.

Grats on baby! I wish I'd be okay doing all the childcare, but I very much doubt I will be (baby incoming any day now) - I think it would make life much easier. Just make sure he bonds enough with your baby, and spends time at the weekend :) If you enjoy doing most of the work with baby, then great for you, do whatever works!

as long as you are both happy with the situation, then of course it is fine. However, I would want to have a proper chat about expectations for when you go back to work, and if it is at 9 months, for example, I would start laying the groundwork at about 6.

It's what works for you both, but you have to remember that what works at 10 weeks when you're on mat leave, may well not work at all in a year when you're back at work.

Some lovely comments on here, thanks folks!
He is lookingn forward to being more hands on when she a bit bigger (and less scary!) and he has more time at home. He loves mornings he is off as he has time to spend with her while I am having a bath etc and is happy for me to nip out to the shops etc between feeds if he is at home.
I know when she is older our roles will change and although he isn't great around the house (more by default than deliberately these days) he is looking forward to taking her out, reading to her and so on.