So tonight I did a test aibu

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So as the title suggests, tonight I did a test. It was positive, my oh does not want anymore babies aibu not to tell him. This was not planned it was once after a few too many.

No he can't, but I hate that feeling of walking on eggshells, he is going to go mental. Mental.

Then why didn't he get the snip??

Yanbu. I can understand you needing a bit of peace to get used to and enjoy your newly pregnant state before dealing with any negative reaction from your other half.

I was in so much shock when I found myself pregnant that I blurted to my PHD straight away, knowing he would want me to get an abortion that I died was not going to get. It was a very stressful situation and I wish I had given myself a little while to sort through my own emotions before dealing with his.

I know it sounds harsh, but if your OH' s reaction is not going to have any bearing on your decision. About the outcome of the pregnancy there is no reason. He needs know just yet.

Sorry, I meant "my OH", not "my PHD".

Hmm, something went badly wrong with incorrect on my post. I apologise and hope it makes some sort of sense despite all the vocabulary and punctuation fails.

Remember you have done nothing wrong. He is also responsible for preventing pregnancy. He cannot force you to have a termination, he should not pressure you. Can someone else look after the children to give you time to talk? Make a plan to have somewhere safe you can go if you need space after you tell him. It would not BU to wait a couple of weeks to tell him so you can think things through, especially when you are worried he will react badly.

Thank you ladies, he has gone off to work so I am going to be able to have a bit of head space thanks

I found BPAS really helpful when I became unexpectedly pregnant with dc 3 (day 6 of 6 week cycle, using a condom). They will talk through options in a calm,non judgemental way and can also refer to other agencies (eg Women's Aid), if you feel it would be helpful.

You can google the phone number.

Please don't be bullied (and having you walk on eggshells, alternate snapping and ignoring is bullying, not lovely) into making a decision you may regret.

Thank you, I think when someone is so changeable, I tend to ignore the bad bits for a peaceful life, and think "well when he is lovely he is so lovely" and I should not be scared of telling him I am a grown woman, I just need to keep saying that to myself!

We're all here for you love.

OP, you didn't get pregnant all by yourself! Stop sounding so apologetic, and creeping about on eggshells as if you had done your husband some terrible wrong! He has exactly 50% of the responsibility for this pregnancy.

I also don't think that someone whose moods clearly frighten you and the children sounds nice.