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To want to block people on FB for bragging about how well their babies are sleeping?!

59 replies

LadySnapcase · 09/02/2014 11:29

"Aww thanks to my little man for the 10 hours sleep, luv you so much!!!"

I swear to god, if I have to read another version of that status I'm going to go fucking postal. And yes, I am just jealous. Really, seriously, bone achingly tired jealous Envy Envy

Lucky Bastards.

(BTW, I know I'm BU, of course people want to brag about their babies...but shit, it's just really hitting hard today Sad)

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kylesmybaby · 09/02/2014 14:02

Haha I have a friend that put videos up saying to baby .. Oh how wonderful are you sleeping for 12 hours... It's going to be the same one who says ... How great are you swimming at 3 months ... Walking at 5 ... You get the idea.

Longdistance · 09/02/2014 14:07

Yanbu.

But I'm a fb moaner. My dd1 never slept through. I seemed to get more comments than those who's dc did.

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LadySnapcase · 09/02/2014 14:13

If I do see anyone else complaining of sleep deprivation I always commiserate, but I have a feeling I've complained about DS so much people are starting to think I don't actually like him! I've stopped being quite so negative about it all (on there obviously, not on here!) but don't actually feel I should have to proclaim my love for him via social media just to reassure people I'm not some hard case who hates her baby...

Oh, that turned into a whole other rant!

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Mishmashfamily · 09/02/2014 14:16

Oh yes the 'my golden baby slept through from the first night I brought him home from the hospital ' - fuck off!

Apparently to mil both her boys slept through from six weeks. Dd is nine months and I've had suggestions of seeking medical advice, not letting her sleep at all through day, I'm not feeding her enough.

I just lie now, it's easier.

BagOfBats · 09/02/2014 14:20

Someone on my feed said their baby was sleeping through at 12 weeks the other day ("what a clever baby" etc etc)

Reader, I felt murderous.

My 14.5 month old still wakes anything from 2 to 10 times a night. Every night. DS1 slept through from 3mths but at least I had the good grace to not post it on Facebook. My only hope is that they go on to have a non-sleeper for number 2. The smug bastards. (And breathe.... It's the tiredness, I'm actually very nice, really...!!)

Melonbreath · 09/02/2014 14:28

Yanbu.
I have a crap sleeper too.
You will have the last laugh though. A friend of mine posted for months about how their little darling did a minimum of 12 hour sleeping a night, and how it was all thanks to their calm and amazing parenting skills. . Cue to 9 months sleep regression and now they're lucky if they get 3 hours a night full stop.

I feel sorry for them but.... mw aah hahaha!

Caboodle · 09/02/2014 14:44

My DM took me aside when DS1 was small and waking every 1 to 2 hours, at a time when all my friends were saying their babies were sleeping 8 hours.
She told me....
People lie.

tobiasfunke · 09/02/2014 14:46

My SIL had a great sleeper- he basically slept 23 hours a day. I on the other hand had a sleeping nightmare who woke every 2 hours for about 13 months, then twice a night until he was 2.5 yrs. On top of that he only took a 20 minute nap a day from he was 6 weeks until 22 months. I was a mere shell of a woman by the time he slept through.
What gave me the rage was every time she had the odd night where her DS woke once she was all over facebook telling us how sleep deprived she was. She had no fucking idea. I once took him overnight as she broke down weeping about how tired she was. Turns out he had had 2 nights (non consecutive) in one week were he woke once in the middle of the night. I felt truly conned.

Bowlersarm · 09/02/2014 14:50

YANBU

Parents are divided into two groups. The ones who have sleepers Envy and the ones who don't Sad.

And the ones who do, think it's all down to their excellent parenting!

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LadySnapcase · 09/02/2014 15:11

Caboodle Ha, you've just reminded me, someone I know said her DS slept through the night 'except for feeds and putting his dummy back in' Hmm

DM has been gently prodding us to put DS in his own room for weeks as she was convinced it would 'cure him'. We held out till 6 months for our own piece of mind and...he's exactly the same. I do sometimes question whether it's something we've done, but think that's just my fears of inadequacy speaking Blush

tobias I would have decked her! Did she ever return the favour?

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trilbydoll · 09/02/2014 15:57

I think they get there in their own time. Two of my friends have bad sleepers and about a month or so ago, they started steadily improving. Nothing done differently, just baby maturing.

Just need DD to get the memo!

Littleen · 09/02/2014 21:09

Never seen anyone talk about their babies sleep pattern on fb, and would find it irritating if they did on more than the rare occasion. Also don't get the whole competitiveness about whos baby sleeps the best etc.. So stupid.

crashbangboom · 09/02/2014 21:25

I've bragged like that....... But DD slept through for first time around 2yrs. I think its acceptable after so long!

babybarrister · 09/02/2014 22:04

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Worriedkat · 09/02/2014 22:12

DS1 pretty much slept through from birth, 11pm to 6am ish. Never had sleep regression ever. He was over 10lb though so he had a head start on food reserves Wink

smug calm parenting techniques abandoned with DS2 (colic hell) and DS3 (woke up at midnight ready for the day) so karma worked its charms

vichill · 09/02/2014 22:16

Anybody who calls their son little man will be cheating by loading them with hungry baby milk and baby rice at 3 weeks old before bed. I'm bitter.

SuffolkNWhat · 09/02/2014 22:17

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JoinYourPlayfellows · 09/02/2014 22:17

someone I know said her DS slept through the night 'except for feeds and putting his dummy back in'

I think that's really sweet, actually :)

Because she's right - there's a massive difference between the sleep deprivation of broken sleep from waking for feeds and dummy replacement and spending the ENTIRE night pacing around and trying to deal with a screaming baby.

One leaves you glassy eyed and a bit of a zombie. The other steals your soul and your will to put one foot in front of the other and keep going.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 09/02/2014 22:26

Slightly off topic but I defriended someone who was stealth boasting about the healthy nutritious meal her dc was apparently enjoying immensely. I commented that she was lucky as I found it hard to make mine eat healthily at all sometimes. She responded that it was just a matter of perseverance on the part of the parent. Hmm

Yeah thanks for that. Bye then.

Dwerf · 09/02/2014 23:25

It's just a theory, but it's strange how me, dd2 and dgd all had the same sort of non-sleepiness. Not crying at all, just not sleeping. My dad loves to recount how one night I pottered around quite happily until 3am when I finally collapsed in a heap and he gently placed me in bed. Four hours later I was up again, happy as Larry. Dd2 was the same, not crying at all, just awake.

On the upside, I've heard there's a definite link between poor sleeping and intelligence, but they can't work out whether the intelligence causes the non-sleeping, or is simply because the child spends more time awake and learning.

deakymom · 09/02/2014 23:29

good baby = bad teen?

my baby doesn't sleep well at all if that helps and he is 13 months old my son is 5 and wakes me up in the early hours of the morning by lying on me and pressing his face to mine when i wake up (occasionally screaming) he asks is breakfast ready? NOOOOOOO!!! my daughter is the only one who sleeps she is 13

VoldysGoneMouldy · 09/02/2014 23:48

Babies are not designed to sleep. They're supposed to wake up.

DS didn't sleep through until he was two and a half.

MrsMook · 10/02/2014 00:06

DS2 (9m) randomly slept through last night. The night was not wasted though, at 2am I was showering DS1 who woke howling and covered in vomit, thus balance was restored.

I resisted the urge to publicly announce on FB.

MrsMook · 10/02/2014 00:07

DS2 (9m) randomly slept through last night. The night was not wasted though, at 2am I was showering DS1 who woke howling and covered in vomit, thus balance was restored.

I resisted the urge to publicly announce on FB.

Stripyhoglets · 10/02/2014 01:03

They might be lying - no Facebook around when I was up with a baby all night, which may has been a good thing as a relative said that the person she knew who was posting about how PFB was sleeping through etc etc was actually outright lying about it, as the father admitted the baby wasn't sleeping at all well. Just odd really.

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