AIBU to consider another baby when I am the main wage earner?

[twinkle1010]

It was all so different with ExH he earned more than me although I still made a significant contribution. When we had DD I had 9 months off and not a care in the world.

Fast forward 7 years and Im now with my new partner. We live together and Im so broody (and 34 so time is ticking on) I just cant stop worrying about how we will pay the mortgage etc on maternity pay which is rather rubbish from my employer. My wages basically pay all of the bills and his pays for additional things like food, clothes, days out etc. He works full time in his own business he just doesn't earn very much as times are so difficult.

All I can think about is debt and struggle on the one hand and then on the other hand my chances of having a baby is decreasing!

Please tell me Im not the only one!

That's how I feel Twinkle. Sometimes I fel guilty as its a ridiculous amount if money to mean two people at home all day. But I really want to breastfeed and just enjoy my baby!

There's nothing wrong with that viewpoint twinkle - if you can afford it, great.

But, if you really want a baby and you can do it without needing maternity leave then surely a baby that you can't spend as much time as you'd like to with is better than no baby at all.

sorry twinkle, I missed the fact that you are the OP there.

obviously you have to make the right decision for you and your family.

Maybe I will win the lottery! Someone has to :)