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That I am bursting into tears a lot

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bongobaby · 07/02/2014 19:29

I'm in a state of fear, panic and feeling paranoid. Today I burst into tears at home and went into my wardrobe closed the door and sat in there on my own. Few days ago I came home and sensed somebody had been in the house whilst I was out. Things had been placed where they had not been placed by me and have freaked me out. I'm jumping at every noise, looking over my shoulder.
I'm a mess at the moment and I'm feeling so panicked and crying.

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bongobaby · 08/02/2014 18:44

I'm scared and very jumpy at the moment. The police advised that all doors and windows should be locked at all times. I feel they are not taking this seriously enough and that I'm just a paranoid women that is making things up.
I know and feel that someone had come into my house and moved things. But because there was no sign of a break in the police didn't give me a crime number they just wrote things down on their pad. They did the same when a male was seen laying underneath my car late at night wearing a balaclava.

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heatseeker · 08/02/2014 18:56

I am not surprised you feel jumpy I feel nervy for you. Can you change the locks like funkyboldribena says? Have you got anyone who can come and stay with you to A) give you some comfort B) try to catch out the person out?

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bongobaby · 08/02/2014 19:00

The lock was changed already a few weeks ago. It's difficult to have anybody stay as its my and ds in a two bed home.
When the male was seen under my car he calmly faced them and walked away jumping over a fence.

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heatseeker · 08/02/2014 19:19

That is a bit of a worry about the man under your car . Keep reporting things even if you feel silly, you need to have a log of what is happening. I would take pictures of the rooms you have noticed things missing/moved for you to compare later, for your sanity and as proof to others.
Do you have any idea who it could be? I would be tempted to ask someone over even if you have to set up a blow up bed for a few nights.

MollyDoublyBarrely · 08/02/2014 19:21

Can someone come stay with you? A friend or family member perhaps?

MollyDoublyBarrely · 08/02/2014 19:23

Or what about neighbours? Can you ask them to help, keep an eye out and be a witness should you need it?

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bongobaby · 08/02/2014 19:30

The person I suspect of doing these things is very clever at doing this, and will go all out to not get caught. I have been watched and followed. On the night of the car incident this person was watching me with a torch from a distance but I didn't piece it together until afterwards at the time.
I will see if somebody can stay but that can't go on forever.

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fraiserno · 08/02/2014 20:13

So sorry you are going through such a horrible scary time. I would go all out to find the money some how to get cctv as has been suggested already but thinking again who is your local MP ? I cannot help thinking that they might be able to help in some way given recent headlines surely they would approach the police on your behalf this sounds so scary as you say.

MollyHooper · 08/02/2014 20:22

What sort of thing have been moved?

Have you asked your neighbors if they have noticed anyone of the persons description near your house recently?

Could you ask them to keep an eye out?

ChubbyFeets · 08/02/2014 20:38

There are some really cheap hidden cameras on amazon. £5-£10, could you afford this?

mercibucket · 08/02/2014 20:43

change the locks again. fit sliding locks across top and bottom. fit window locks.

who saw and reported this man? have the police linked the two cases?

can your house be accessed any other way eg through shared attics?

PurpleRayne · 09/02/2014 08:52

Good advice and helpline here: www.nss.org.uk/

liketohelp · 09/02/2014 14:53

I would also recommend seeing your MP. He/she can write to the police backing you up, and they will reply. Even if they still don`t investigate, at least there will then be an official record of your case.
You need to collect as much visible evidence/photos as possible - the police need evidence to connect the crime with the suspect.
By the way, burglars can "roll" a round bolt with a screwdriver & push it back to break in - maybe a flat bolt would work? - please ask the police for advice - you can go in & just chat & ask questions, if you find the officer sympathetic!

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bongobaby · 09/02/2014 19:02

Threasa May is my local Mp. The police don't seem to link these things to the same person at all. I just want them to understand the fear that I am feeling at the moment and to give me some help. He was kicking my frontdoor swearing snd shouting. I told the police and rhey said he was entitiled to come and see his ds and not to frustate him not answering the door to him! I asked if my housing association could come and make the backdoor more secure three months ago and they still haven't bothered. Even though I had explained how scared I am with my ds in the house.

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fraiserno · 09/02/2014 23:51

I am no good at links but googled your MP and she has a very useful update with a form you can fill in to contact her online plus a telephone number and email address. Contact her today. Do not think you cannot. Ask her to help you now.

fraiserno · 09/02/2014 23:53

Sorry should - up to date website - google now.

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