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AmericasTorturedBrow · 12/02/2014 05:48

Cards, take away, bubbly and fizz

I want flowers just cos I always want flowers and valentines day he might actually remember to bother getting me any

I'll probably buy him a bumper bag of hot tamales, he likes those

Might shave my legs

maniacbug · 12/02/2014 07:09

DH and I agreed right at the start of our relationship that we would not be doing cards/meals out/flowers, and we're both happy with that... but we do make cards for the DCs - is that weird?! Usually write a stupid limerick, or the reasons we love them so much, and buy them one little heart-shaped chocolate or a tiny little plant too. They love it, it's a special day for them. (I realise this is going to have to stop when they start getting boyfriends/girlfriends - do not want to end up as the subject of a MIL AIBU in 20 years' time!)
They go to a tiny C of E village primary and did a special service at the local church this week, where they talked about what love means and the importance of appreciating friends and family and sharing love with the world. The older ones had written poems (DS1's was about not squabbling with his brother and sister). We are not religious at all but it felt very meaningful.

Rooners · 12/02/2014 07:41

I won't get anything, and tbh I'd rather not, not until I'm faced with someone who is actually nice, and suitable, and not a plonker.

atm I am being pursued by a bloke who must be about 21 and reminds me of Archie off of Balamory. But younger.

avoiding where he works ALL this week needless to say

Rooners · 12/02/2014 07:43

He's very nice btw. But I really don't want the awkwardness of it.

I always love flowers except the only person who got me them on a regular basis was a male friend who always chose the most hideous colours, you know, pink, orange, yellow combo from the shop, with fake greeny bits in.

One old boyfriend bought me daffs I think - he was nice and so were the flowers. that was a lifetime ago.

CurtainsForYou · 12/02/2014 08:52

This time last year my DP of 10 years had just dumped me suddenly and without warning. Although for various reasons I didn't want him back, I hoped that on Valentine's day last year he would acknowledge me, or what we had, with a card or something - my thought process seems a bit stupid now

If XDP had sent me a card last year I would have immediately ripped it up, but it would have given me back some of the power I felt I'd lost. But he didn't send me anything and now, a year on, I am clear that our relationship is well and truly over and I am truly glad it is. I went NC, deleted him from my life, kept my dignity, and I have survived quite nicely, thank you

So this year my expectations of Valentine's day will be that I expect nothing from anyone as I don't, at the moment, have a 'Valentine' in my life. But life is so, so, so much better than it was at this time last year so I expect to have a good day.

Rooners · 12/02/2014 09:01

Nice one, Curtains. You sound great

Whatsthatnoise · 12/02/2014 09:40

I'll maybe get a card and flowers, was considering getting DP an itunes voucher.
There was a customer in my work last night who was buying his DW an iPad mini for valentines day I am slightly jealous.

Wibblytummy · 12/02/2014 10:10

We do cards and then for the last 4 years we've had a tacky competition. Who can find the most appalling tacky hideous gift for under a fiver. Last year DH broke the budget by an extra £2.50 (said he couldn't help himself) and got two animated teddy giraffes whose necks are entwined and sing "I got you babe" as they wiggle their necks around... Truly horrific and it won hands down. Keeps us amused and more fun than picking out serious gifts. Then we usually have a nice dinner and watch a movie.

everydayaschoolday · 12/02/2014 10:11

St Valentine's Day is also our anniversary. We exchange cards and we're going out for a lovely Thai meal (mum watching TV at our house babysitting once we have kids tucked into bed).

We're still ploughing through the Chrismas choc stash and I don't really 'do' flowers. So neither of those.

We're happy just having a grown-up meal together in peace without cajoling toddlers, cleaning spillages and wiping mouths (as per every other dinner)!

everydayaschoolday · 12/02/2014 10:14

for Curtains. A great post.

laregina · 12/02/2014 10:14

Not really into Valentines Day but every year I get carried along with it and end up buying something for DH - he does for me too, but we don't go mad; it's usually just something silly pervy

And we'll have something nice for dinner, plenty of booze and a tipsy bonk, but then it's Friday so what's new

SarahBumBarer · 12/02/2014 10:55

I'll be watching Criminal Minds then having an early night alone. I expect my DH to go to work and earn lots of extra money from guys giving big tips in order to impress their girlfriends. Since Friday is usually a good night for that anyway I am just a bit gutted that Velentines is on a Friday this year.

CoffeeChocolateWine · 12/02/2014 12:18

Our anniversary (of when we met rather than wedding) is in the same week as valentines so usually we celebrate that with flowers, chocs, nice meal and champers and just give a card on valentines. But this year I had to work on the evening on our anniversary so for the first time in 9 years we're doing valentines instead!

I expect we will do the same thing though...nice meal (at home) and wine, flowers for me and chocs for him. And perhaps a good DVD as it's on a Friday!

I did drop a slightly large hint that I would LOVE a massage voucher as it's been 3 years since I had one, but I have a feeling that will be for Mother's day instead!

thegreylady · 12/02/2014 12:22

Dh usually makes me a card and I get a bunch of daffs which I love. I give him a card and a kiss :) We have been married for 25 years.

BearsInMotion · 12/02/2014 12:31

We always do cards, which I'm not a fan of but DP would be :( if I didn't. He won't be expecting anything else, but I have got him his favourite chocolate which I will sneak into his lunchbox before he goes to work.

Otherwise, I'm just hoping the non-sleeping toddler goes to bed early so we get a bit of time together!

Thumbwitch · 12/02/2014 12:38

What do you hope to receive? - I know what I'll "receive", I've already bought it. I gave it to DH a few weeks ago and told him what it was for, expecting that he might put it away and then give it back to me on Friday. BUt no, he left it out on the coffee table where the toddler could have grabbed and swallowed parts of it (costume jewellery set), so I moved it. And then later asked him what he'd done with it - you should have heard the panic!
He'd better bring a card back with him when he gets back from Melbourne, mind.
What do you actually receive? If I don't deal with it myself, chocolate. Which considering I'm trying to lose weight and doing the low carb thing on here, would be rude.
What will you give? A card and a roast duck dinner. He's even harder to buy for than I am.
How will you celebrate? By eating the roast duck dinner and being glad he's home which will be somewhat dependent on how much shit singing he does when he gets here - it's a constant annoyance

LabRat72 · 12/02/2014 13:18

My MIL texted my husband last night to ask if he's giving DSD (7) a card? Is giving children a card a thing now? I know that DSD has made a card for her mum but apparently her mum asked her to make one. But again. A child giving a parent a card on valentines day? Is that usual?

Thumbwitch · 12/02/2014 13:21

Not when the child is a child, no.

My Dad sent me a Valentine's card the year after I split up with my first fiancé, and then every year until I apparently told him that it was daft and promptly forgot I'd told him, so when I didn't get one from him I was upset! [fool]
It was nice to get a card each year when I was single.

I send him one now because he's widowed.

Thurlow · 12/02/2014 13:21

Nothing. We don't celebrate Valentine's Day. Should we feel the need to have a special dinner together or buy each other presents, we'll do that when we want to, not on a prescribed date allotted by the greetings card companies.

I'm not a cynic or unromantic but it's just a date picked at random on a calendar!

Best1sWest · 12/02/2014 13:37

Nothing, lovely for teenagers and young people but really I'm happier with a cheap bunch of daffs bought on a random wet day in March.

VegetariansTasteLikeChicken · 12/02/2014 13:45

Neither of is is super romantic, so it's nice that hallmark St Valentine reminds us to make an effort once a year, I keep all the cards and notes dh gives me (and i Have seen his stash of mine to him). It's all a bit silly but I kind of imagine the kids finding them one day after we are gone and realizing even if we aren't super affectionate outwardly how much we really loved each other.

Also every so often when I'm cleaning up I find them and go through and read them a bit.. it's sweet because I will remember a certain year, where maybe we are trying for a baby and dh is uh promising to sort it for me that night or our first Valentines.. or the first after we got married.

If you are like that all the time you don;t need it..some of us need a friendly reminder!

This year, I'm just hoping to have already given birth so I can crack open the bubbly! Dh who is a rubbish cook will usually make the effort to make me a nice dinner, but it will take him hours because he has no idea what he doing and then I will be starving and begging him to let me just finish the damn thing so we can eat...and I'll be kicked out of the kitchen...

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TheBeautifulVisit · 12/02/2014 13:52

Curtains - So glad to hear things are much better.

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embouchure · 12/02/2014 14:18

Nothing. DH won't remember and I really can't be arsed this year. I'm not that keen on the day anyway. Been married nearly 15 years. I am not romantic at all and neither is dh.

halfwildlingwoman · 12/02/2014 14:24

We don't do Valentines other than a card and a nice meal in. Haven't bought the card yet. I've asked him to organise the food this time and I don't think he has. Just ordered a bottle of cut-price prosecco though, so at least I can have a drink. Hate the materialism of V Day, but would like an excuse to feel a bit special....

struggling100 · 12/02/2014 14:34

Gosh, I seem to be in the minority here... But I love valentine's day!

I will be giving DH a set of weird and bonkers presents (as usual) including a 1940s puffin book on architecture, a mushroom growing kit, and a pair of running leggings that I know he covets. I don't know what he's got me, but I am hoping for a brightly coloured Fjallraven Kanken. I'll probably spend quite a lot of the late afternoon/early evening making him a three course meal for us to enjoy together... So exciting!!