OK I really need to ask for help to deal with this.....
Friend came over today, I find her visits difficult since she has a young child (we each have one that play together she has another, younger) and tends to not supervise her youngest at all, consequently I will often spend hours tidying up and cleaning after the youngest (it's not my strong point and I am a bit of a neat freak now my dcs are older) she let's her walk around with a bottle dribbling milk all over the floor or off with iced cake into the living room (we have always had a no eating/drinking anything other than water outside the kitchen rule thanks mainly to living in rented!) hence lots of cleaning. My house is not toddler friendly so I don't think this girl has visited without breaking at least one of my kids toys.
I try very hard to avoid her visits, so I will leave my car down the street, go out when I know she will drop by, or hide and not answer the door!!!!! Since I find them so difficult to cope with.
last week she came over kid had bottle in mouth the whole time (lots of spilt milk) giggle giggle silly me you shouldn't have that bottle is all she says, never mops it up, pooed all over her clothes (chair was plastic!) threw food all over my floor and carpet, smeared fruit all over my kitchen floor, had to have a shower to de-poo, (hence I have dirty shower, wet floor and towels to clean) pooed again (poo on chair living room floor and bathmat) broke two toys and then weeed on the floor.
Help me deal with this without alienating my friend, I pretty much have no one else I see socially (new and very insular small town!) I would like to see her but really really want to give the whole kid, playdate thing a swerve.