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Sorry, after a bit of quick advice... To send ds to school or not??

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JulietBravoJuliet · 03/02/2014 08:24

Ds has woken up this morning very rosy cheeked and with a temp of 38.1. He's been coughing all weekend and I'm sat listening to him cough now. He says he feels fine and wants to go to school (which, considering he's been going through a phase of refusing, is surprising!). I've given him Calpol and his temp has come down to 36.3. Just can't decide if it would be irresponsible to send him? I'm at work this morning but only 30 seconds from the school, so could easily fetch him if need be. He's 8yo btw.

So, MN jury... WWYD?

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clairefromsteps · 03/02/2014 08:26

If he wants to go in, send him. Tell the office person and teacher about his temp though, they'll soon let you know if he needs picking up.

Ihatepeas · 03/02/2014 08:28

Send him in.

wonderingsoul · 03/02/2014 08:28

id send him...

i th ink what would sway me is if he prone to coming down really ill.

mine seems to have super imune syt ems and are rarely ill and when they are they bounch back really quickly and are not so affeted by it.. so for me if mine where like that i would send them but warn the teacher.

GinSoakedMisery · 03/02/2014 08:29

Send him in and if you can, go to school around dinner time to give him some more calpol.

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JulietBravoJuliet · 03/02/2014 08:34

I was swaying towards sending him in but just gone back into the kitchen and he's not eaten his breakfast and is shivering and has burst into tears :( I've phoned school and sent him back to bed!

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pixiepotter · 03/02/2014 08:39

No he is ill.He has a temperature and therefore has an infection,The calpol just masks the symptoms

Greentriangle82 · 03/02/2014 08:41

I'd keep him home.

Dawndonnaagain · 03/02/2014 08:50

Are there any children with lowered immune systems at the school? If you don't know the answer to that, then you need to keep him home.

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JulietBravoJuliet · 03/02/2014 08:52

I'm keeping him home :)

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Gileswithachainsaw · 03/02/2014 08:53

Wise choice. :)

Hope he feels better soon

HicDraconis · 03/02/2014 08:54

Hope he feels better soon! Our schools all have a blanket "24 h after the last dose of calpol" rule with coughs / colds / fevers. Seems sensible enough.

Badvoc · 03/02/2014 08:59

You are the adult.
Your dc is ill.
It's nice he wants to go to school but he is obv too ill.
You have made the right decision.
Hope he feels better soon.

RobinSparkles · 03/02/2014 09:06

DD1 has had a temperature all weekend. This morning she said that she felt better just a bit of a sore throat and her ears were aching a bit.

I've kept her off today as she was crying in the night and still had a temp. She seems ok - keeps rowing with DD2.

I always feel a bit guilty keeping her off Hmm like I'm being too soft. It's not worth spreading germs about though.

Sillybillybob · 03/02/2014 09:11

I'm amazed people were saying to send him in with a fever. That's ridiculous. He was clearly unwell.

Glad he's staying at home today.

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JulietBravoJuliet · 03/02/2014 09:43

When I was contemplating sending him in, his temp had come down after Calpol. He has a tendency to burn up at the first whiff of a cold, so I know that realistically, by lunchtime he'll probably be fine! I've got to go into work for an hour this afternoon so he'll just have to come with me.

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Sillybillybob · 03/02/2014 10:01

His temp came down because you gave him paracetamol. That does not make him well.

Yes I'm touchy about this as my DS is immuno-compromised. But this means that if ANYONE in my family gets sick there are days of worry to see if DS catches it.

To put it in context, if that had been my DS this morning, I'd have had to take him straight in to hospital (temp of 38 or over is automatic going in), finding someone to look after DD at very short notice, and then up to 5 days in hospital on antibiotics. Which often lead to him getting a c. diff infection as he is a carrier. Which means longer in hospital and significant distress for him.

I do not understand the need for people to share germs around. Yes I know coughs and colds are generally innocuous. And I send DD in with them. But if a child has a temperature? No. It's not fair on anyone.

Sixgeese · 03/02/2014 12:03

We had a big sign up in the playground before Christmas saying if you have to give your child Calpol in the morning they are not well enough to be in school - people were sending their DC in, telling the staff that they had dosed them and the children were being sent straight home. There was a nasty bug going around, one day that week out of 180 children in the school over 30 were off sick....it was the last day of the school Christmas concerts, the hall looked quite empty for the performance.

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JulietBravoJuliet · 03/02/2014 15:37

Our school are quite happy for us to send our children in dosed up; I had to really explain my decision for keeping him off today. Speaking to another parent, it appears her son has been off recently with slapped cheek disease, and apparently several other children have too. Symptoms are very similar to what ds has had, as he's been complaining of joint ache all weekend, and is very rosy cheeked. It's contagious for a few days prior to the symptoms though, so not really much I can do! There's also a child from his school currently in hospital with bacterial meningitis so you would think they would be a bit more picky about letting children go when they're under the weather!

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