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Posting for Traffic - DD ill since October

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notbloodybranston · 02/02/2014 23:17

Please help.

DD is nine, normally eats a good range of foods, swims, trampolines and is usually healthy. She does appear to be on the road to puberty, and is beginning to change shape.

She had a series of throat/chest/ ear infections since October. She was given about three lots of antibiotics and had a fair bit of time off school.

Since November she has been sent home from school a couple of times because she had fainted or gone very pale and felt sick. She feels sick all the time (it's just normal now) and is often a grey colour. One GP thinks she has water in her middle ear which is making her dizzy and has prescribed loratadine and a Nasal spray, as he thinks the water in her ear is caused by an allergy. The other GP just checks her pulse, temp, urine etc which are normal and says he doesn't want her to go through the trauma of a blood test. He thinks it is post viral and will sort itself out.

DD goes to bed propped up on four pillows every night due to nausea. I am now at wits end. She has no energy. I am not usually over anxious (more the school of benign neglect) but lost my mum last June, and seeing DD like this is driving me wild.

I am taking her back tomorrow to GP. Am going to ask for blood test (she is so pale I want to check iron) and perhaps allergy test. Does anyone have any ideas - what would you do???

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landrover · 02/02/2014 23:22

no suggestions, but thinking of you both and bumping xxxxxx

Brucietheshark · 02/02/2014 23:25

Just stick with your plan. Raise merry hell about the blood and allergy tests tomorrow.

Point out that if the inner ear thing is a all possible you now want a referral to an ENT department and an allergy person.

Focus on calming your own anxiety (that is completely understandable), but at the same time be a complete pain in the arse pushing for tests and referrals. Do not take no for an answer. Keep phoning for dates/results.

Then when she turns out to be completely fine (which I'm sure she will) you can rest assured you left no stone unturned while you were worried.

This two pronged approach has always stood me in good stead, albeit with special needs concerns rather than health concerns. You do have to be bolshy and difficult ime (in a polite but no nonsense way).

Marn1e · 02/02/2014 23:25

I'd do exactly as you're doing. And maybe suggest to the doctor that the blood tests really will be no trauma for her - no. Ore so than feeling sick all the time!

Just think - in a week or so's time you could have the results back and have peace of mind or a clear course of action if her iron levels have dipped or whatever

Brucietheshark · 02/02/2014 23:26

Also - have they tested for glandular fever?

Twistiesandshout · 02/02/2014 23:26

100% ask for tests and be the pushy mum you need to be to get dd help. You are the one who knows her best and you are best to be her advocate.

Hope you get the answers you need to help dd get better.

MeepMeepVrooooom · 02/02/2014 23:31

Get her tested for glandular fever. It sounds very similar to when I had it. Hope you get to the bottom of it.

notbloodybranston · 02/02/2014 23:33

Thank you - they've run no tests at all and their attitude is that of bored men shrugging their shoulders.

Meanwhile, although she isn't wasting away, her appetite has gone down hill and sometimes she's just sad and floppy. She is going to loo at lot (poo - tmi) - I've just heard her flush. I want to take in a photo of her from last summer and make them see the difference - but might be a bit OTT.

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BikeRunSki · 02/02/2014 23:34

I was also gojng to suggest glandular fever. I had it, undiagnosed until 2-3 months in, in my thirties. I became lactose intolerant temporarily as a side effect and felt very nauseous the whole time.

SayCheesePlease · 02/02/2014 23:34

get that blood test done,

the gp doesn't want her to go through the 'trauma' of a blood test, but 3 months of being sick and propped up by pillows is ok??????

have no idea what's causing it, but hope your dd feels better soon

CocktailQueen · 02/02/2014 23:36

Could she be constipated? Dd gets constipated and it makes her feel sick, have no erergy or apppetite...

CocktailQueen · 02/02/2014 23:36

Energy or appetite - sorry!

MeepMeepVrooooom · 02/02/2014 23:38

If you don't get anywhere with GP ring NHS24 they would hopefully get you an appointment at the hospital. I did this for DD after 3 GP visits and all 3 sent us home saying virus. Turned out it was a bacterial ear infection and if left much longer her ear drum probably would have burst.

manicinsomniac · 02/02/2014 23:44

nausea, going to the loo a lot, pale and dizzy ...? Have they tested her for diabetes?

Not doing the blood test in case of traumatising her seems ridiculous. You both need to know what's going on!

Chippednailvarnish · 02/02/2014 23:45

Demand a referral, I hate to say be aggressive but sometimes it's the only way.

usernameunknown · 02/02/2014 23:49

Doesnt sound like glandular fever based on my symptoms. Was she close to your mum? Could it be depression?

I'd be pressing the doctors for blood tests xx

WheresMrMonkey · 02/02/2014 23:51

Goodluck.... Definitely best for you to keep looking for an answer, just for your own anxiety x

BaldHedgehog · 02/02/2014 23:54

She's had 3 courses of AB's and is going to the loo very often- OP is it possible your DD' s bowels are lacking some good bacterias killed by AB's? Please try some probiotics but keep pushing GP for the tests, don't let them fob you off.

coco44 · 02/02/2014 23:58

She needs a blood test if only to rule out the 'nasties'.

SourSweets · 03/02/2014 00:00

I was also going to say to get her tested for glandular fever. I had it for months and the penecillin they gave me reacted with the virus and gave me a whole new set of symptoms. It can also cause swelling of the liver.

I hope you find the cause soon and get it fixed, sounds awful.

AcrossthePond55 · 03/02/2014 00:02

Consider having her tested for Coeliac Disease.

notbloodybranston · 03/02/2014 00:02

Thanks for all your messages

Mum had been ill since DD was four, so they weren't as close as they would have been. DD was upset for me when I was at my worse, but I honestly don't think it's a MH illness- just because you can see the colour drain out of DD at different times of the day.

I had wondered about some sort of food intolerance, but have purposefully not googled her symptoms. We're hitting the phone at 8 am to get an appointment.

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InvaderZim · 03/02/2014 00:03

Celiac? It can present with a huge range of symptoms.

notbloodybranston · 03/02/2014 00:08

Sorry - have now googled. Does anyone know what exactly is the test for
A) Lactose intolerance
B) Coeliac - spelling?

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MissMalonex2 · 03/02/2014 00:08

My daughter had similar symptoms last year (also combined with headaches). She was constipated - but presented as sporadic diarrhoea. She now has two sachets of movical for her stomach / bowels a day - transformed! They did exclude coeliac first. Good luck OP - such a worry

BumpNGrind · 03/02/2014 00:09

I would really be making sure that thyroids were being checked when the bloods are taken. Under active thyroid seems common in my family, a cousin of mine was diagnosed at 11, she gained a lot of weight, had no energy, was really deathly pale and her cheeks were very puffy. She also suffered with nausea and there were other symptoms as well but I can't remember them all. Her poor mother went through hell watching her dd suffer, and now she manages really well. It's taken some time for her mess to be set at the right level and she'll have to take them for the rest of her life, but she's healthy, happy and active. Hope your dd gets the answers you need and makes a quick recovery.