DH and I split in December. We have a mortgaged property together.
He was physically and emotionally abusive.
I can't afford the mortgage alone so I moved out with DS (7 months).
I'm back to work this month and move into my rented place next sat.
He is still living in the house and we haven't yet decided what to do about it.
Ostensibly he is having counseling/anger management etc and we are going to live apart for 6 months at least and then see. (if I'm honest I'm not planning to go back but I don't want to close the door completely incase some miracle happens)
He says he can't afford mortgage alone, but in reality I think, whilst tight, he could just do it.
On the other hand I can't afford to pay two lots of rent, childcare, all baby expenses etc.
So I am thinking of saying : fine. You want the house (for now), so, why don't we call maintenance quits until we have decided what to do, and I won't pay towards the house.
His alternative is sell the house, or buy me out, pay maintenance and find a flat somewhere so I think he is getting the better deal?!
AIBU??