My exh is now in a new relationship and has two children with his new p. He initially took me to court to try and arrange silly contact hours where by his son would be travelling 8 hour journeys twice in one weekend once a month with no consideration for his well being (he is primary school age)
He pays the bare minimum in maintenance despite being a high earner as the director of the company he can make it look like he earns much less. CSA told me this is a common scenario.
Last few years he regularly fails with the maintenance and when i mention this he tells me he 'ran out of money'. He has new cars, holidays more than 3 times per year, eats out a lot etc. No way he ran out of money obviously financially supporting his son is not a priority.
He never contributes to his school uniform, shoes etc as feels that is covered by maintainance money and even goes to the extreme of making my son change out of the clothes he has bought him at handover so they dont come home to our house.
Currently had a couple of months him desperate to leave when he visits our son in our area but when i bring son to him it is a fight to get him back at a decent time so we can make the long journey home. Our son has school the next day. When he visits at our place he oftens says he can 'kill time til lunchtime but sooner he can get down the road the better:. Is it just me or would this combination of stuff make your blood boil too. He is such a manipulative twisted shit I suppose I can feel glad I don't live with the bastard.
Grrr.........