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To take the kids with us to view a house?

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monkeynuts123 · 01/02/2014 10:59

Just wondering what the general opinion is here. We went to view a house and took kids, toddler and 5 year old with us. They were both well behaved and didn't run off around the house touching things or misbehaving but stayed with us as we viewed the house and only asked can they take their coats off and did they have to take their shoes off? The little one had to be watched by the stairs but we took it in turns so we both had a chance to focus on viewing the house. There was no playing about, shouting, interrupting, eating or filling nappies. We arrived at the appointment on time and left on time.

The estate agent said we should have left them outside in the car and that in her day she got left in the car while her dad was in the pub. I said that people don't tend to leave their kids in cars much these days if they can avoid it and she said in her day she was too scared of being hit and that things today have gone too far the other way.

AIBU to think that if children behave themselves they ought to be allowed to look at the house in which they may one day live?! I don't understand why some people have a problem with children just being there, if they're being naughty or inconsiderate I get it but if they're being well behaved what's the problem? I left feeling that we were in the wrong and our kids are a pain in the arse just by existing.

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manchestermummy · 01/02/2014 16:27

We looked at one house that had pubes in the bath and DD1 piped up "Er Mummy the bath is FILTHY" at the top of her voice. Obviously the vendor was downstairs. The agent had a look, laughed, muttered "Out of the mouths of babes" and said she would remind the vendor about presentation....

Children are necessary when buying property.

Flossiechops · 01/02/2014 16:34

We have had 5 viewings on our house today and only 1 had children with them (a newborn and a 5 yr old), I loved the little girl running around looking at the rooms. Yadnbu - we have another 6 viewings tomorrow and I hope to see more children!

Hissy · 01/02/2014 16:46

Please report this shitty agent to her office/head office!

Just because she was raised by neglectful and violent parents doesn't mean she has a right to pipe up about yours.

vj32 · 01/02/2014 19:35

We took DS who was 2 at the time to a few house viewings, including the second viewing of the house we bought. We wanted him to see the house, and for us to see him in it as it was very different to what we thought we were going to buy. It also seemed to help our offer - the vendor had rejected the same amount twice before, but I think it eased the blow that she needed to accept our offer than it was genuinely from a stretched young family and not someone making a big profit at her expense.
(It was a fair price but at the stamp duty threshold so there was no room for negotiation.)

JackNoneReacher · 01/02/2014 19:45

If I was selling a family home I would certainly be expecting family viewers!!

As a buyer, it would be nice not to have to take the children, but choosing a house often involves multiple viewings for many months so you'd be very lucky to have someone do that much childcare for you.

As for the estate agent..! What a cheek. I'd speak to her boss. Or perhaps suggest she stay in the car with the dc. Or say "gosh you must be very old, we don't do that anymore".

DoJo · 01/02/2014 20:12

I loved taking my son with me - it gave us something to talk about other than endlessly saying 'what a good-sized room' or any of the other meaningless clichés that you spout when you can't say what you really think!

RandyRudolf · 01/02/2014 20:27

WTF! If you came to view my house with your kids you would be more than welcome.

She's talking out of her arse and you should complain to her manager.

Flossiechops · 02/02/2014 16:39

We had 7 viewings on our house today and the most lovely was from a youngish couple with 2 young kids. The children were running around deciding which bedroom they want. I truly hope they make an offer on it!

frumpypigskin · 02/02/2014 16:51

Some of these responses are ridiculous. Where are the children supposed to go? We don't all have babysitters or family on tap you know.

I have had to take 2 year old twins house hunting, and recently I took my 3 children with me to look at a house, the youngest child now being 3.

It is my responsibility to look after them and make sure they respect the house, just as I would do if we were visiting a friend's house.

Your agent was being ridiculous to suggest you leave the children in the car (obviously her parenting skills have not evolved past the 1970s). Any person who asked me not to bring my children to view their house would not be getting a viewing. I imagine that trying to negotiate with someone like that would be a nightmare and I would happily avoid it.

paxtecum · 02/02/2014 17:01

Um, she didn't necessarily have an abusive childhood - it was normal to be left in the car at the pub, with a lemonade and crisps with a salt packet! And you did get a clout if you misbehaved/answered back.

I'm around the same age as Nanny Ogg and the above was normal 50 years ago IME.

nobutreally · 02/02/2014 17:03

Nearly all our viewings were with the kids - we don't live near family, and decent houses that are coming up round here sell fast (ours sold in 24 hours..) so there's no time to faff around sorting childcare.

There was one house where we were made to feel slightly unwelcome (eg. the owner had said nobody was to step on her white rug at all (which took up nearly the whole of the floor in the living room) - even without shoes. We seriously thought about an offer on that one, but decided - amongst other reasons - that the vendor was likely to be a pain. The house came off the market - with no offers - after a few months....

MrsCampbellBlack · 02/02/2014 17:08

I took my children to the many, many houses I viewed and it was fine. I prefer to be shown round by the agent and not meet the owners anyway.

When we sold a house a few years back, people often turned up with family in tow including parents. Its up to them and I didn't care.

If you want to sell a family home, then you accept that a family will come to view it.

cory · 02/02/2014 17:17

jetsetlil Sat 01-Feb-14 12:58:01
"As a viewing rep I prefer applicants not to bring children but would never dream of saying anything. Most are extremely well behaved but some have been horrors. Mainly its because it slows the viewing down eg getting them in and out of cars taking off and putting on coats and shoes etc."

So what do you do if the prospective buyers are disabled or elderly and slow the viewing down? Or do you have to have a certain level of fitness to buy a house?

PenguinBear · 02/02/2014 17:31

This is the strangest thread ever. Why would anyone not be happy to have well behaved children at a viewing??

We have four and have had to bring them all before... No-one batted an eyelid, it never occurred to me to not take them Confused.

I have never had a problem with people bringing theirs to my house either, if they were being naughty they'd have got my best teacher death stare Grin

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