To ask you thoughts on why DD6 is behaving like this

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My DD has started being quite mean to a couple of friends. She will talk down to them using a very mean voice.

Yet she still wants to have a joint party with one of these friends.

The friends are nice girls and probably look up to my DD a little bit. I doubt they are being mean back to DD. How can I address this another way as it's been going on for months and I can't seem to get her to stop.

Her sisters are smaller.

Am I right on thinking she's 6 years old and not the 6th daughter?

Is it spilling into school? Maybe start with a chat with her teacher?

Yes, I mean 6 years old not my 6th child. It is spilling into school. Teachers have not really noticed it but I notice when she interects with her friends.

She's 6, bossy control freak behaviour is not uncommon.

DD2 was is a very sharp cookie, she is somewhat brighter than the DD next door, she bossed her about appallingly at that sort of age.

She tried to get us to revolve the world around her too.

Six seems to be the age at which DCs start to what some real control over their lives. They develop a certain degree of verbal dexterity and like to practice using it, by organising everyone else.

Trouble is that DD2 might have had the vocabulary to organise us and a good line in mean put downs for her dyslexic big sister, but she didn't have the sense to know when to shut up and when it was in her best interests to cooperate.

She did at school, but at home she had to show off.

If your DD is being mean to her DFs at school as well as at home, a word from her teacher may work wonders.

xpost definitely see if you can get the teacher to have a word.

She's much more likely to listen to the teacher than you.

IME six year-old limit testing is saved for home, DD2 was an angel at school. It's far more Y5/6s who push it at school.

Or in DD2's case Y8s (she is talking not working and living on her wits at the moment).

She's hearing it somewhere. If you din't recognise it, chat to her and see if you can find out where she's heard people saying those things.

Btw dd6 definately implies she has 5 older sisters.