To not want to apply for this job?

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I am employed at the moment but my contract ends in the summer. I have been planning to do some freelance work after that, if I can get enough in I can earn more one day a week than I bring in now, even after tax. I have already had an offer of a few days work, and several other options in the pipeline so I am getting more confident about giving it a go, on the advice of posters here I want to give it six months and see if I can do it.

DH has been a bit hot and cold about the idea, more positive since offers have come in. We can just afford to live if I don't get anything at all, but it would be very tight. Also he is a bit fed up with his job too. He saw a job advertised yesterday and sent the details to me - good pay, permanent and local but full time and anti-social hours. The main reason I don't want to work full time is that I want time with DCs, including after school when they are at school so I am really not keen. AIBU or selfish about this?

It really depends though on how much this job would mean financially. If it's just enough to live on if you don't take it would that be an added stress to the family in case of unexpected events.
Could you not take the job and do the freelance as well till you get into a comfortable position to quit the job?

If he's not happy with his job then you should take that into account IMO. Talk to him about what he would do if you got the permanent job. Would he look for something else? Would he spend more time with the children? Would he stay where he is feeling unhappy?

I don't think you should apply for the job just because he wants you to, but it's also not fair to expect him to shoulder all the financial burden so you can have more time with the children.

When I went freelance I made sure I had 6 months worth of savings in the bank as that's sometimes how long it took to get paid, and sometimes you don't get paid at all.

If it's anti-social hours, how will it work with childcare? If it's full-time, you need to also talk about how the chores and domestic work will be split.