to not want to be hassled about this?

[Songofsixpence]

DH was a school governor at my children's school.

At the end of November, he stood down. Reason being, he just doesn't have time for it any more. We have a lot of pressures at home and the school were becoming more and more demanding of him to the point he was in there for lengthy meetings once or twice a week and he just couldn't commit to them.

Since returning to school after Christmas, every time I have seen the head she has questioned me about DH's reasons for quitting. Why, what's the real reason, did he have any problems, etc

Until last week. I had just been reiterating that there was no problem, DH just no longer had the time. She accosted me on Friday (for the 2nd time in the week) and I ended up saying something along the lines of "look, this has nothing to do with me, you need to speak to DH, please can you stop asking me about it" which she obviously took to mean there was a deeper reason and has accosted me another 3 times this week

DH has told her himself about a million times that there is no other issues, he just hasn't got time.

DH has been told that there are some issues and thinks she is digging

I just want to pick up/drop off my kids without 20 questions every time I see her

Good grief she sounds unhinged! Write her a letter...keep a copy. State that you do not want to be asked about it again and that she has asked on x amount of occasions and you feel it's bordering on an inappropriate level of interest.

Whisper to her that since he was given 'the special project' from MI5 he just doesn't have the time

Bloody hell, how infuriating. Maureen has the right idea: your DH needs to it in in writing reiterating it was a time issue, nothing dramatic, and you would appreciate it if she did not question you further. Perhaps send a copy to the governors.

If she ignores that, then maybe a restraining order....

That is very inappropriate of your head - wow. Writing a letter is a good idea. Perhaps your DH should also speak to the chair of governors and ask the chair to have a word with the HT.

As a side point, your school's GB is very inefficient if they are having so many long meetings. Few governors would have the time to devote so many evenings to being a governor, and the GB shouldn't need that much time to get things done. I am a governor and our GB meets once a term. There are also subcommittees which meet once a term; each governor is a member of one subcommittee. So I go to two meetings a term: one committee meeting and one full GB meeting. Governors have tasks to carry out in between the meetings, obviously, but I can't imagine our GB meeting every single week. It's just not necessary!

Just tell her, he fancied her and he felt he had to keep his distance.

Maybe she has the hots for him and is feeling the way in your relationship to see if she can make a move.

Thanks

DH has said that he has been told that "something" happened after Christmas and a whole raft of governors resigned. Ofsted is due sooner rather than later so he thinks she's fishing to see if DH was involved - he wasn't, he'd quit long before any of this came to light.

I'll definitely get him to write to her, it's just mad that it has become necessary.

All sensible suggestions above. You could be evil and next time she accosts you look carefully at her, nod to yourself and mutter "I can see what he means". That would be cruel though. I suppose it depends how much it is annoying you

not a serious suggestion, no need to get any knickers in a twist

I'd tell her, "there wasn't previously an issue, but there is now because you aren't bloody listening to me, so now DH is going to tell his former colleagues on the Board what's going on"