to want to book myself into a hotel room on my own for a night?

[wintersdawn]

I am exhausted, I haven't slept in I don't know how long, my 3yo dd is at full toddler tantrum plus nightmares stage, my 9 mo ds is teething and has realised mummy can leave the room without him cue screaming all day long, my dog is bored of not having a decent walk because everywhere is flooded and my dh just has to breathe to annoy the hell out of me.
I know I am blowing everything out of proportion but I can't seem to stop myself. I really just need peace.
I'm being selfish aren't I

[MartinSheensTeeth]

Oh yes. I've also spent many hours wondering what illness would guarantee a short stay in a private hospital room and no nasty interventions, and from which I would return to a household filled with a new found appreciation for me and gratitude for all that I do. Wouldn't get that from a night in a Travelodge

[MsAspreyDiamonds]

www.premierinn.com/en/our-cheapest-hotels.html

Just book into a premier inn hotel, £29 for a room you can afford to do it several times a year. I am on my knees with exhaustion now after 3 years of broken sleep. My work is affected & I am completely run down and need a break. I have nobody nearby to take the kids for a night.

[Jjou]

Do it! This is my fantasy too - my kids are 6 and 3 now, but it's something I keep in the back of my mind all the time. DH travels a lot with work and is always moaning about how much he hates hotels but I'm DESPERATE to do this and think he's an ungrateful fecker.

[HellsGranny]

This is my fantasy (it used to be a desert island with Jonny Depp or similar!)

I have a nearly 4yo, a teething 16 month old and a husband who snores.

[bunnymother]

Do it. You must have a break at some point. My DCs have almost starting sleeping through the night without waking me up, and it's been wonderful to start the day feeling refreshed rather than physically ill due to fatigue (my 3year old DTDs are terrible sleepers). Until you get to that point, do take as many nights off as possible.

Lots of sensible posts about the terrible impact lack of sleep has, no medals for martyrs and the need to preserve yourself. Enjoy it!!

[smegley]

Me and dh are doing it tomorrow, I cant wait.
we get to use the pool, sauna, steam room and gym, a decent nights sleep and a full english all for less than £50!

[malovitt]

I stay in a hotel by myself from time to time to get away from my house full of teenagers.

I take my laptop, loads of chocolate and a new boxed set of films.

Heaven.

[rubyflipper]

DO IT!

I had two nights to myself a couple of years ago at a hotel. It was nothing fancy - just a Premier Inn - but it was bliss.

Nothing to do but rest, shop and visit friends; waking up when you like as opposed to being woken up - I need to book another one!

[wintersdawn]

I really should just do it I think. There is that awful in built guilt about doing it but I know they'll have a much better mum next week if I do.

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

Do it. You sound like you need a decent break and a rest.

[Munxx]

Do it. Please do it, as soon as I get the baby to stop feeding at night I'm doing it.

[AmericasTorturedBrow]

YANBU if you can afford it and DH is supportive then go!

I was absolutely on my knees last year, DH packed me off to a friends spare room for a night which while lovely meant I prob stayed up too late nattering and was up crack of dawn to get home - but a full 8 hours was amazing!

DH and I are booking THREE night away when my parents are next here, I can't wait but I would also just love a night and a day on my own in a hotel

[Jjou]

I know what you mean about the guilt - if it came right down to it I would feel a bit weird about doing it. But needs must - you sound like you really need a break.

[TwinkleSparkleBling]

Another one saying do it without hesitation.

I have a 3 and almost 2 year old and have done it twice in the last 6 months. I see it as a battery recharge

[MTBMummy]

Do it, I occasionally escape to my sisters house for exactly that reason. x

[HolidayArmadillo]

I went back to work to do permanent night shift to just get some decent sleep. It probably would have been easier to do this tbh. Go for it!

[Tailtwister]

No, you are NOT being selfish. I seriously considered it myself when the children were very small for similar reasons and it was only the lack of funds which stopped me. Of course I survived, but I'm sure the break (and sleep!) would have done me the world of good.

Book it and go!

[ModernToss]

I did it; I was at the end of my tether, so I splashed out on a beautiful hotel that was walking distance from home, so if there was a real emergency I could be there fast. Room service dinner, early night, sleep in, room service breakfast - it was fantastic. DO IT.

[bluebeanie]

Grumpy - that sounds like my idea of heaven.

[PlumpPartridge]

I do actually daydream about shutting myself in the back bedroom and pretending I'm not there so DH and the DC can't find me, then putting in the earplugs and merrily ignoring the world.

I haven't ever done it because I feel bad about wanting to :(

[Thetallesttower]

My husband did enable me to go away for a week around exactly this stage, I was really losing it in terms of exhaustion and perspective, and he just said, you need to go away and have a break. I went to see some friends. I did it again a couple of years later. I help him if he's overloaded and wants to say go to see a friend- I am very grateful for someone point out I was running on empty and seeing it was important to fix it.

[Coumarin]

Do it. A fancy one with a huge white bed, 24 hour room service, a mini fridge heaving with posh crisps and chocolate and a spa.

Do it do it!

[Meerka]

actually, if you are restored by a night's sleep then you really will be a refreshed and happier mama, and the little ones will pick up one that.

There is nothing wrong with balancing their needs and yours in the right way! ofc they come first but if they are safe and cared for, you can and dare I say, should, take some time to take care of yoruself too. You will be so so restored.

[hamptoncourt]

Book at least two nights though, so you really get the benefit as you actually might find it hard to sleep the first night, despite being so knackered.

Like previous posters I still do this even though my DC are teenagers!!

Why shouldn't you?

[maparole]

Definitely YANBU.

I only have one ds and he was a great sleeper, but even so I took myself off a couple of times during his toddlerhood