To think my DH should not keep waking me to tell me I am snoring.

[Cucumberscarecrow]

I have a heavy cold. There is a spare bed in DD's room. Could he not just go in there instead of waking me every five minutes to complain about my snoring? I eventually suggested this and he went but was not happy. DD is a light sleeper so I couldn't have gone to her room.

This is exactly my problem I've had an awful time of it full of cold but not allowed to sleep because I sound like Darth Vader apparently.

Yes I think he should have taken the initiative and moved beds, especially as you have a cold.

If it were me is probably have disturbed you enough to get you to change positions but without actually waking you. Maybe a prod in the back to make you roll over in out sleep. I'd only have done it once or twice and then if it didn't work I'd realise it wasn't going to and would have moved myself.

If you've got a stinking cold you need your recovery sleep, but not everyone thinks of that, especially when panicking about their own sleep loss!

yabu
sleeping next to someone who snores is not pleasant.
I would have woken you as well.

If it's because you have a cold and it's often through the night then he should just move.

why should he stay awake all night because you are snoring and why didnt you move beds , its ok to keep him awake all night but not your dd , he might be a light sleeper too , you could of gone to sleep on the sofa , another selfish snorer .

another selfish snorer

Oh Do Fuck Off - she's got a cold & is doesn't normally snore.

Even if she did normally snore, waking someone stops them going into deep sleep. Snoring normally stops when you're in deep sleep so waking a snorer just prolongs it.

In this house it's the snorer who moves to the spare room, not the snoree.

oh dear captaingrinch i take it you are one of them :)

Theres always one is there, who has to be the contrary one. No reason why your dh couldnt have gone to the spare bed and had 2 non snoring light sleepers in one room

The spare room has her DD in it...so its not ok to keep the dh awake but ok for the dd?

as i said always the sofa and yes you are right there is always one .

Following are you for real??

You're suggesting she should move into her dd's room and keep her child awake rather than disturbing a grown Man? Maybe she should put her Dd on the sofa, eh? Get a grip love!

I think if you've got a cold & therefor feel unwell, yanbu to expect up be left to sleep. Lack of sleep will make you feel worse. I'm sure it won't kill your dh to spend a few nights on the sofa if it's bothering him so much, after all, I'm sure you'd do the same if he were ill & needed some space. Waking you up just means there are two tired members of the household instead of one! Hope you feel better soon op!

people please read i know its early but really .

YANBU because you have a cold. BUT if this was a regular thing I would say YABU. Sleeping next to snorer is horrible. Luckily I've trained DP to roll over off his back when I nudge him in the side, which shuts him up and lets me go back to sleep!

And for the record, my dh is a snorer & if it bothers me that much, I move elsewhere. He can't help it & if I constantly wake him up, he'll be tired for work the next day. Sometimes a gentle prod encourages him to move onto his side which usually solves it. It's not really worth falling out about, especially as in this case, snoring is caused by a cold and not a frequent thing.

In this house, snoring is classified into two categories. Your fault for snoring and not your fault. If you have been out drinking and start snoring when you come home, you are nudged awake to stop it. If you have a cold, you are left in peace to sleep through it.

Hay fever is still a controversial point, as no, you can't be faulted for having hay fever, but you could also have taken an antihistamine to stop it.

So in Cucumber's case, I think YANBU.

Jesus haven't any of you people heard of this little invention called EARPLUGS? www.snorestore.co.uk try some, they just might change your life. They'll definitely make some of you slightly less grumpy.

Thanks to all the reasonable people for the sympathy.

Following, would you really have decamped to the sofa knowing that there is a bed in DD's room? Would you really expect your DP to do that if he had a cold? If so, you really are a pair of martyrs. What make life so difficult for yourselves?

Ah yes, drunken snoring is a whole other subject and can be classed as voluntary snoring.

I do indeed snore, and I've trained my wife that, every time she pokes me in the ribs for snoring, I'll poke her in the eye for waking me up.

It took a while but she learned to go to sleep.

It ain't rocket science....

Of course following wouldnt theyre just being difficult for the sake of the thread, ya know, since its aibu.

Ear plugs? I'm happily waiting for an ear plug that blocks out more than 39db, considering my sleep app recorded dh snoring at 90db and the average is around 50db they don't really do a great deal.
The problem with sleeping with a snorer is you are hyper aware of every noise, so even on a good night wearing ear plugs and him snoring at the average db you are still aware of the noise and it still keeps you awake.

I think someone half-asleep doesn't always make the most rational decisions, like getting up and moving beds. So cut him some slack. But yes, YANBU really.