To think friend's flirting and sex games are not normal!? Lighthearted!

[cottonwoolbaddies]

We have a group of friends from school and the local area, and one couple in particular seem to play a lot of games when we're out.

Examples are, practically forcing a newly single female friend onto her husband on the dancefloor. So the wife pushes her up against him and says go on, dance with him, and the husband forces his legs between hers and is practically grinding her! Half an hour later the husband and wife are outside passionately snogging while newly single friend is feeling mortified about the dance floor experience.

Another time the wife initiates a game where she discreetly dares some husbands to approach other wives and touch them in an inappropriate way, for example, rub their leg or something, and then the wife also does a similar dare where she touches an unsuspecting husband. Can I add, these poor suspects are not part of our group of friends!

Another time wife initiates full tongue snogging with other wives.

We're all in our early 40's. I just find it moronic that they behave like this at this age! I've behaved in a similar manner but when I was in my twenties and would feel an idiot doing it now.

Is this how they keep their sex life exciting? They definitively seem to get some kind of kick out of it.

I think maybe they have decided to "spice up their marriage" but unfortunately are involving people who have not been party to that decision.

If they were good close friends then maybe I would say to the wife "you are starting to make people feel uncomfortable" otherwise I think I would start to avoid them - their behaviour is shocking, particularly toward your single friend. I cant think of a point in my life however young that I would have been happy for someone to behave towards me in that way.

If they want to push sexual boundaries then they need to be doing it with other people who feel the same way.

Whoa - wouldnt go near them.
Ever.

Sound dangerous tbh.

hmm cottonwool from your last post id say hes bored and she is trying to keep him interested (why the f*ck would you if hes like that)

Possibly. She does seem insecure and has said in the past she is trying to get back that young sexy woman he married.

She does make a great effort to please him and he is a little bit controlling. As an example, she gets an allowance instead of access to their joint account.

Personally i'd distance myself from them, it sounds like it could get messy, undignified and is already a bit on the creepy side.

if you looked a bit deeper you would see a whole bunch of dysfunctional stuff

like nolan said, this stuff is not lighthearted and it it is not harmless7

Their relationship sounds like almost every kind of wrong and unhealthy.

How depressing.

What gets me is they act like such a normal, fantastically happy couple in normal life - when not drunk that is. They seem so together and to have a very stable marriage.

Now I am racking my brains trying to think of other weird things that have happened.

I think if you behave in ways that are not acceptable when you are drinking then you have a "problem" dont you? I can be an arsehole if I drink certain things when I know I am in a certain mood...so I dont, I could just carry on and say "ohh well it was the drink" but thats a bit twattish isnt it?

I think what they did to your friend is actually veering in to sexual assault territory, particularly if she made it clear she was unhappy.

What awful, low grade people.

In all seriousness cottonwool this couple should be very careful as some of this inappropriate behaviour and "dares" could land them in court on indecent assault charges.
I am a magistrate and have seen this kind of unsolicited "fun" go very wrong indeed.

So creepy!

Start keeping your distance, is my advice.

Do they frequently exchange keys?

After mixing them around in a hat?

I'd be looking for new friends. What they did to your other friend on the dance floor was just vile.

Scratch the surface of any swinging, swapping, polygamous couple of and you'll nearly always find a selfish, forceful bloke and a reluctant woman going along with it in order to please/not lose him.

So, to spice up their presumably consensual sex life they encourage each other to assault other people. All kinds of wrong and disgusting. If I was you I would say something and then distance myself. If some arsehole 'touched me inappropriately' in a pub I'd break his nose, or some other part of his anatomy.

pampas grass...

bleauh. completely wrong.

My chin is a-tingling

they have probably had a few fantasies about involving others in their sex life and are trying things out in the hope that someone comes on to them back and they can take things a step further. swingers in waiting but a bit inept at it

Hang on, how you come didn't notice a friend repeatedly instigating drunken sexual assaults on other friends and total strangers? It sounds quite, well, noticeable, as behaviour goes.

These types care little if other people get hurt so long as they are getting their jollies! Cortaderia Pumila

Pigeonhouse, well I would say they haven't always been like this. Because I would have noticed if it had been happening all along. I think they have either become more comfortable around us as time has gone on, enough to she us this side of them, or they have become more risqué as time has gone on.