To think my partner is being selfish?

[Tasha1990]

We have just had our first child and of course being tired and such like we are both quite snappy, so due to this and other circumstances we have decided to live seperately. Now this isnt the problem as I beleive things will be better this way, the problem is that its his last week living with me and i feel like he isnt helping at all! I do all the night feeds (even if i ask for his help with them) he isnt helping with cleaning and to top things off tonight he told me he worries about what he would do if we ever split (as a lot of his stuff is staying with me) He feels it is "inevitable" we will split in the long run as he is a pessamist (his words)...... I know he loves me and I really dont want to split but im almost at my wits end!
Is this just me being tired and blowing things

I really dont see how living apart will mean either of you will get any support from.the other or help keep you close.

I realy cant see the logic.

Stupid phone posted before I finished

• Am I just blowing things out of preportion?

Why is living apart when you have just had a child a good thing?? Surely that's exactly when you need to be together?

Well, no, but I think there are bigger issues than him not helping out this week if he's moving out. In a way, if he's not going to be there at night in future maybe it's best to get used to it? What an odd situation though...

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I can see the good side of living separately, but with such a young dc you need a break sometimes so you need to make sure he takes his turn and gives you some time to yourself.

However, while I can see the space between you as a positive in some ways, his attitude isn't supportive or committed and this would worry me.

At least this way you will be prepared for being a single parent, but bear in mind that if you split properly he will have to give you a certain amount of money and it would be usual for him to have some time on his own with his dc each week, so make sure you get both of those things.

Don't settle for the downside of single parenthood without the benefits.

Obviously while the baby is still small he won't have overnights, but if you get a few hours once or twice a week to have an uninterrupted bath or a nap you'll find it easier to cope on your own for the rest of the time.

You are living apart because you've just had a baby? And he thinks it's inevitable that you will split. I don't understand why the two of you decided to become parents?