(Really transparent NC cos I think he just does an advanced search. Could be wrong though.)
Whenever I post anything about XH on here, no matter how vague, he immediately reacts. Recently I posted about whether I should introduce the kids to my new boyfriend (just as a friend, and he met them before we started seeing each other anyway) and the general opinion was that XH was being ridiculous for trying to ban it, and was continuing his EA controlling twattery.
Anyway, couple of mornings later, I wake up to a message from a mutual friend, with a screenshot of XHs public fb post, calling me a "fucking evil, worthless, lying cunt who plans to introduce my children to the worst man ever"
A couple of other people contacted me to tell me about it too, and it's the latest in a long line of these types of posts. He seems to delete them when he sobers up, but it is still v v annoying. He is, however, getting me a lot of sympathy from people who had previously thought of it as a mutual "growing apart" type of split (and I rarely tell people the details) and have heard or read his rants and seen his temper and drinking.
He had a proper go at me a few weeks back for posting a semi lighthearted thread about his love life (it really wasn't bad at all - I stuff I would say about a friend in a slightly dodgy relationship, to their face)
I know he partially blames MN for us splitting up (because MN posters kept telling me that what he was doing was abuse and that I should get out ASAP - took me seven years but I eventually got out a year ago and I am starting to realise how bad it was. I distinctly remember someone - it might have been Reality - telling me not to marry him just before the wedding, and getting quite annoyed at me for not getting out)
Anyway, I don't THINK he will read this, but there is a possibility.
The easy answer is just to not use MN, but I love this place, I've had a lot of support through some very dark and scary times (as well as lots of fun times, and made brilliant friends). Every NC only last as long as it takes him to work it out, and I really don't want to be all stealthy - again, I have friends etc on here. But I'm gonna have to :-(
Just feels like he can still control me.